second time mommas???

[@llli*samsmom106]

To all of you second time Momma's or to the first time Mommas that have weaned....do your breasts ever return to normal? I am not planning on weaning anytime soon...but think about this everytime I look are the foreign body in the mirror.....the stretch marks, the large mounds of flesh that now sag lower than ever before. I have always had a smaller or an average chest and now clothes fit weird because I am larger than average. So when the milk dries up? ....is there any light at the end of the tunnel. Even a dull glow somewhere at the end?? Or am I going to have to skip the sexy Victoria Secret bras for good??? If the answer is no, they never return to normal or somewhat normal...I still love breastfeeding my little guy but at least I will know what to expect!!! Hahahahaha Also sorry if anyone thinks this is in poor taste....I just don't have anyone else to ask.

[@llli*llamas.mama]

I would love to get some perspective on this too. I am 2 weeks pp and have gladly sacrificed my previously youthful body (I'm a young mom...24) to have my son and would gladly do it all over again. I knew my body would change but I guess I wasn't prepared for just how much! I went from a B cup pre-pregnancy to an E cup!! And the shape of my breasts seems totally different now- they hang down much lower just because of the increased size/weight. They seem deflated when DS has pretty well drained the milk out of them. And while I can live with the stretch marks and I can work on the muscle tone in my abs, I have to wonder if all the loose skin will get better, or if it will always sag! I know my body will never be the same as it was before, but how much will I be able to firm back up? I liked the boobs I had before and although hubby keeps trying to reassure me that he loves my new body, I can't help being disappointed at how much they hang down now!

I knew I wouldn't be tight, toned, and smooth forever and I was ok with that, I think I just wasn't prepared to give it up before I even hit 25!

[@llli*durhamgrrl]

Originally Posted by @llli*llamas.mama

I would love to get some perspective on this too. I am 2 weeks pp and have gladly sacrificed my previously youthful body (I'm a young mom...24) to have my son and would gladly do it all over again. I knew my body would change but I guess I wasn't prepared for just how much! I went from a B cup pre-pregnancy to an E cup!!

2 weeks pp is about prime time for watermelon boobs . I am about 2 months pp from baby #2 and they are def smaller than they were at 2 weeks (thank goodness - the back ache) but last time I went from a C before I was preg to an F a few months after DS was born. I have no idea what will happen to me when I wean because I was still Bf DS when I became pg with DD. My mom was originally between an AA and an A but when she was done stayed a B.

Now have you checked to see if your feet have grown? Sometimes they do y'know

[@llli*aprilsmagic]

I think what you see is pretty much what you get.

You can tone up your muscles, you can lose the weight -- I actually weigh 5 pounds less now than I did before I had the FIRST baby -- but your body is never ever going to be the same without surgery, IMHO. My tummy has excess skin, so I look like I have a pooch there, and it's not fat. It's just skin. My breasts are floppy and larger than they were pre-baby, but definitely not the size they were immediately post-partum after any baby. They do go back down some, for most mamas. I started as an A/B, got up to a C/D and now am back down to a B/C.

But they are gonna hang lower, and unfortunately, that is due to genetics and pregnancy, not nursing. It's just the way it is. I think some women don't have this side effect, but they are kinda freaks of nature or can afford lots of surgery. I know some mamas who had plastics done after they were all done to restore a youthful appearance to breasts and tummy, but that's not for me. Whatever though.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

I wonder how teenaged moms deal with it, you know, girls who have babies at 15, losing a totally youthful body that young. I'm sure it's not as bad for them as it is for an adult mama, but I'm sure something happens.

IMHO, the VS bras will be even more important later to FAKE it I am planning, once I stop nursing entirely (which might be years in the future) to go invest in several pretty awesome bras that return my chest to my chest instead of halfway down my front

[@llli*shannon75]

Originally Posted by @llli*samsmom106

Or am I going to have to skip the sexy Victoria Secret bras for good??? I

No, Victoria Secret bras are going to be your bff's after you are done having kids They lift and provide great cleavage. The cheapest boob job you'll ever find!

[@llli*samsmom106]

Great to know I am not the only one, not that I really thought that I was....I was pretty sure everyone was going through this. I will say.....I feel comfortable with how my stomach looks...a little excess skin so it looks like I have a tummy but I am actually weighing less 10weeks pp than I did when I got prego. I just hate the boobs...like prior post my hubby loves them except for the fact that I want him to steer clear of them. I can handle the stretch marks but the sagging sucks. I knew there would be sagging afterwards but I hope that after the milk has dried up there will someone resembling my old self instead of the stranger I see now. I mean they will weigh less...so there is some hope right??? I love that I can provide for my little dude but come on....I need a whole new wardrobe. Like the young mommy who replied to my original post, I too am not old, only 28....I never thought I would dislike bigger boobs...but I had no idea they would be this big. All my life I wanted slightly larger boobs and now....what the he** was I thinking. HAhahahha Thanks for listening ladies....just need to get that "off my chest"

[@llli*aprilsmagic]

Originally Posted by @llli*samsmom106

but the sagging sucks. I knew there would be sagging afterwards but I hope that after the milk has dried up there will someone resembling my old self instead of the stranger I see now. I mean they will weigh less...so there is some hope right???

They will be smaller, but.... they are gonna be in the same place. Sorry. Buy a slamming new wardrobe, or a few key pieces, that makes you feel good about how you are RIGHT NOW and let the future take care of itself

[@llli*will.smom]

Sorry, I have to second aprilsmagic. DD #2 was weaned for 4 years before my surprise little man came along, and the girls were still bigger and saggier than they ever were pre-kids. I actually like it better now that I am nursing again because they are fuller. But am I ever going to get some nice bras when this is over!

: and pump

[@llli*samsmom106]

thanks!! I can handle the sagging.....with a good bra! the issue now is it is hard to find a good one for nursing that doesn't cost a fortune! you guys are funny!!!

[@llli*llamas.mama]

*gulp* Well, it's worth it! I suppose as long as I think of this as my "real" body, the one I was always meant to grow into, I'm ok with it. It's when I think of my old body as the real me and that I'm entitled to all that smooth, tight skin that I feel a huge sense of loss.

You can't grow a person inside you and not be changed forever.

It's unfortunate that society only shows images of skinny, perfectly toned women with tight skin and says, "this is what sexy is". You don't see images of real moms with stretch marks and saggy skin presented as attractive or sexy- in fact the majority of the time it's presented as "disgusting" and attempts to dress it up with sexy lingerie or act in a confident, sexy way are laughed at and ridiculed. Mothers who have given up their bodies to give life are not treated reverently by society at large.

I don't know why I let that affect my outlook so much. The thought of wearing something from VS or any swimsuit that exposes my tummy is horrifying right now. It feels like it's destroying one of my favorite aspects of being intimate with my husband and that kills me. I couldn't care less what I look like to the rest of the world but I don't want to feel ashamed of my body in front of my husband, and I don't want to feel ridiculous wearing racy items I used to enjoy.