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    Default Re: Judge Threatens to give baby Formula

    And here is another good link.
    http://www.llli.org/law/lawus.html
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    Default Re: Judge Threatens to give baby Formula

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*nolamomma View Post


    Wow. What a generous offer. You are a true hero.
    Aww, thank you.

    I have a nephew going through similar issues -- custody fight between mom and dad. I hear constantly about how the other parent refuses to take into consideration the child's norm for feeding. It breaks my heart, but there is nothing I can do for him because he was never breastfed and he's almost 2, now. It really saddened me too, because his mom didn't even try and I even offered to keep pumping for him (my daughter was weaned when he was born but I wasn't yet weaned from my pump).

    I also know that a child who is used to breastfeeding can often reject formula entirely (my son did when I had my nerve blocks done and let me tell you that was a horrible set of days for him AND me -- again, broke my heart).

    I wouldn't want to see another child go through that if I could somehow help stop it. But I'm a big softie. So much so that I sometimes have to stop reading the news when it relates to children, otherwise I just get all depressed and sad.
    Momma to K 05/24/07 (due 05/31/07)
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    Struggling with nursing but one way or another breast milk is all they get.

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    I'm so sorry you are going through this. I can't even imagine.


    Jeanne (my middle name IRL)


    Mommy to two girls (M & M), born Sept. '07 and Sept. '09

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    I'm very sorry that you're going through such a hard time too. Give your lawyer that info. Is your attorney a family law specialist? That's the best help you can get. Do what you can mama, and remember you can live through this.

    I sort of wonder whether the father may be going through paternal post-partum depression. Stuff for you and your lawyer, because if he is depressed or not a competent father, then vistitation with a newborn can change:
    http://psychcentral.com/news/2010/05...ion/14093.html
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/14675298

    You might be able to insist that your estranged husband have psychological assessment and follow-up. Honestly, it's nor normal to leave like that, even if there is an affair or something of that order going on, it's still not normal to react like that.

    And mama, I know you're overwhelmed, but divorce is not final until it's signed, the no-contest/cooling-off period is over, AND it's written into the public record. If one partner is ready, often a marriage can be saved, and better off then is was before. Just like if a person has a heart attack, then makes lifestyle changes s/he can be healthier than before the crisis.

    There is always reason to hope, and love is the most powerful and mysterious force in this world. It can work on your side if you're ready for it.
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    Default Re: Judge Threatens to give baby Formula

    Hi mama--I've been thinking of your situation all night, check in with us and tell us how it's going

    Dr Dettwyler has a ready-made page for court cases, but it's for extended breastfeeding:
    http://kathydettwyler.org/detletter.htm

    Still, you might be able to contact her with her contact information and ask if she would be willing to write a letter as an expert witness. There's no question that seperating a young baby from her/his mother would cause infant and maternal stress and interfere with the normal course of breastfeeding.

    Keep us posted, will you?
    Katharine
    Be the change you want to see in the world--Mahatma Gandhi
    mid-August DD (2010) & DS (2011 VBAC)
    Ouch! Is it thrush or Raynaud's phenomenon?

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