I had the Arm's reach for DS2 and he wouldn't sleep in it. He was a very fussy particular baby and would only sleep right next to me. I hadn't planned on having him right next to me, but it was the only way I could keep from losing my mind. It actually would have been awesome for DS1 though, since he slept in a pack and play for 3 months, it would have been nice having him closer since I tended to wake up and make sure he was still breathing a lot.
I like the Bravado tanks. I am not sure if they work well for bigger chested women since I am only a B-C even when I'm nursing.
As far as bottles, it really depends. Some babies aren't particular but DS2 would only take the drop ins with the latex nipple.