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    Default weaning a newborn

    I have a DS (11 yrs old) who nursed for 18 months and a DD (7 yrs old) who weaned at about 2 1/2 yrs. Both were avid co-sleepers and loved to be worn. Our new "bonus baby" is 4 weeks and loves to nurse. She is thriving and has never had a bottle or pacifier.

    The trouble...I have an autoimmune disease that may have been thrown out of remission after birth - blood work taken this week will confirm or deny. It's a possibility that I may have to go back on meds that are not good for baby and pass through milk. I have an appointment with my endo and her ped this week to discuss our possibilities. My hope is that I'm feeling just exhaustion and post-partum stuff, not my old disease rearing it's ugly head.

    The reality is I may have to wean her. I'd like to do it gradually (over 2-3 weeks) if my doc thinks I can wait for meds that long. Tips on intoducing bottles (neither of my others EVER took a bottle)? Tips on managing engorgment (I have a lot of milk)?

    I'm very emotional over this, although I want to mentally prepare for this possibility. She will continue to be worn and co-sleep and all the other attachment parenting stuff.

    Any advice? Encouragement?

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    Personally, I'd be pumping now to build up a bit of a stash, just in case. I'd also have SO introduce a bottle once a day / every other day. Wait until babe is hungry. Babe will be more inclined to take it from SO than you.

    I'm a believer in hope for the best, prepare for the worst. But if you are prepared, it probably won't be needed, because you're prepared.

    Lots of luck next week with your results Momma.
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    I would also start a stash right now.

    I would also check and double check about the medicine you have to take and be absolutely certain you can't take it. A lot of times doctors don't know for sure and will just say to wean. There is a website you can check (infantrisk?) and also someone can check the Dr Hale book for you here.

    If you absolutely do need to wean, I would do it over a few weeks, start with a bottle of formula to replace one feeding, then wait several days to take out the next one until eventually she is weaned. I would still pump that milk and save it for her so she can do some breast milk bottles and some formula bottles. Then once you start the meds, pump less and less, gradually and dump it so you don't get engorged.

    I'm sorry mama that you are dealing with this possibility. I will hope for the best.

    Oh, also, before you freeze the milk, make sure you don't have a lipase issue. I have not dealt with that before, but I think you have to tend to that before you freeze it.

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    Call Infantrisk.org ASAP tomorrow. You may not need to wean at all. But it would be good to get correct information. Doctors have given me BAD info about medications and told me to wean. They were wrong.

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    Default Re: weaning a newborn

    thanks for the replies. I will call infantrisk in the morning.

    3rd baby...never had a bottle in the house...what kind? what nipple?

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*jme View Post
    thanks for the replies. I will call infantrisk in the morning.

    3rd baby...never had a bottle in the house...what kind? what nipple?
    DS2 who refused a bottle when I went back to work had some luck with the platex drop-in bottles with the latex nipple. I wasn't a big fan of the drop-ins, I felt they were wasteful but I couldn't find another bottle with a soft nipple like that rather than silicon. We tried a lot of other bottles first but he just wasn't interested.
    Beth

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*jme View Post
    thanks for the replies. I will call infantrisk in the morning.

    3rd baby...never had a bottle in the house...what kind? what nipple?
    I'm sorry you are going through this. I would also be pumping like mad right now to build a stash and give breastmilk as long as possible. As for which bottles, it's so personal. I went through several with my daughter until she would take one - a story I hear all the time on here. For her, Avent is what worked.
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    Sending positive vibes your way!!

    ....and go with whatever bottle works for you! We use the NUK bottle system bc it closely resembles the breast sucking mechanism, another friend of mine swears by Dr.Brown.

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    I would also advise you to push your MD on looking into whether going on medication and stopping nursing is really the best option. If it is, I'm all for it - clearly your health is more important than the difference between FF and BF. But there has been really interesting data in the past couple of years about the impact of lactation of a number of autoimmune diseases, such as MS, including some evidence that people can have fewer relapses during lactation than they do if they stop nursing and start their normal medications.

    I haven't actually read up on this in about a year, so I really don't know the current data well enough to provide direct advice - but I really would say it's worth asking your MD to really be sure stopping nursing is better. They may have to read up on it - it's not something even most specialists read up on all that often. But most docs I would expect to be willing to go home and look into it if asked - you just want to make sure they realize they should do so! Also if you're thinking of exclusively BFing, be sure to include that information, since it actually impacts the outcomes in many of these studies.

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    A friend of mine did have that happen, actually. She weaned her DD at a year and relapsed into her autoimmune disorder. She had actually not been diagnosed previously, she had a lot of unexplained problems, but they all came back full force when she weaned. Good luck with everything, we are all here for you for any help you need.
    Beth

    Exclusively pumped for Lance Oct 07
    Nursed until just before he turned 3 Levi Oct 09

    Do you have extra milk? Consider donating!
    http://www.hmbana.org/:

    "So I was welcomed by the consolations of human milk; but it was not my mother or my nurses who made any decision to fill their breasts, but you who through them gave me infant food, in accordance with your ordinance and the riches which are distributed deep in the natural order." -St Augustine

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