Hi all, I'm bracing for some "you're a terrible mother"-type replies but I would appreciate any advice you have to offer.
I really want to stop feeding my baby at night, or at least get him down to one or two feedings. He is four months old and almost TWENTY pounds (19 lbs 12 oz at four-month check-up). He is exclusively breastfed--no solids or formula, and only very occasional bottles of EBM. He eats every 2-3 hours during the day and at night, with one six hour stretch from 7p-1a or so (but some nights he's up at 10 pm as well.)
He is HUGE. He was 8.5 lbs at birth, which is on the bigger side, but he gained 20 oz/week for the first six weeks of his life and is now gaining about 10 oz/week. I have de Quervain's tenosynovitis in both wrists from lifting him. It hurts to nurse him, lift him, or hold him. I can't co-sleep or nurse lying down because he has some reflux issues and requires upright positioning during and after feeds. The night feedings alone seem to exacerbate the reflux -- he often spits up huge amounts of milk after some of the feedings, but when he wakes up, he won't settle down until he's nursed some. Even sending my husband in to attend to him hasn't done the trick.
Has anyone else eliminated nighttime feeds at this age? Or dealt with an enormous baby who probably didn't need to eat but wanted to anyways?
FWIW, I'm average weight and height and my husband is on the taller side (6' 2") but average weight. Not sure why we got a mega-baby.