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  1. #1
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    Feb 2010
    Alberta, Canada

    Default Fustrated w/ my dr

    I went to my doctor today due to ongoing symptoms of depression. He was very warm and friendly and patient. All was going well until I mentioned that I am still breastfeeding my 13 month old. He asked "when are you planning on stopping that?" I just kinda shrugged it off, since I don't have a "planned" date of weaning, just wanted to go until either me or my DS no longer wanted to. Then my dr goes on this big rant about how my son no longer needs to be breastfeeding and he's not getting any benefit from it, and I need to seriously consider weaning. Of course he's a "big advocate" of breastfeeding, up to 6 months... I should've said that the Canadian Pediatric Society recommends breastfeeding up to 2 years and beyond, but I was just too shocked to say anything. Here I am opening up about my feelings of depression, and end up feeling bad about bfing my son. I just kind of vaugly agreed that he was mosly bfing out of habit, and could wean with work. My dr said if I end up needing medication, then I would have to wean for sure, and that would be the best thing to do if medication is needed.

    Now I feel so conflicted. My DS seems to "need" to nurse at least 3x per day (which isn't much, really) and I just can't picture weaning him right now. Even tho he's walking around and becoming a toddler, he's still such a baby! Plus since I've returned to work full-time I think it's just a nice bonding time. But the depression is quite hard to deal with, and I need to deal with that in order to be a better person and therefore better mom. Has anyone else been on anti-depressants while nursing? Is this okay?
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  2. #2
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    Nov 2009

    Default Re: Fustrated w/ my dr

    I have not personally, but I know a ton of moms on here bf while taking medicine for depression. And with a toddler it will effect him less because he doesn't bf as often. Fwiw my ped simply assumed I was still bfing at 15 months. And so many studies show it has great benefits even beyond 2 years of age. I am on my phone but i am sure someone will come along with great links.
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  3. #3
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    Nov 2008
    Ontario, Canada

    Default Re: Fustrated w/ my dr

    Time to find a new doctor hun.
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  4. #4
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    Apr 2009

    Default Re: Fustrated w/ my dr

    sounds like your doctor isnt very supportive and that upset you a lot. I would look into a new doc. You went it specifically for one issue and not to get a lecture about breastfeeding.

    FWIW I too know some moms BF while on meds for depression. Can you call infant risk hotline to find out if the meds are safe?
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  5. #5
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    Feb 2011
    Colorado Springs

    Default Re: Fustrated w/ my dr

    Get a new doctor
    What he did was mean.


    Zoloft is the safest antidepressant to take while BFing.
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  6. #6
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    Jun 2008
    Landof2toddlers, Oregon

    Default Re: Fustrated w/ my dr

    Your doctor needs a swift kick up the arse, but i think it might be better for you to just fire him. 3 times a day is very little for a nursing 13 mo. so you are doing great. And there are a number of anti-depressants that are bf friendly - zoloft/sertraline is usually the first choice though.

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  7. #7
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    May 2006

    Default Re: Fustrated w/ my dr

    Silly doctor. Please repeat after me: "I don't know much about breastfeeding, how extended nursing might impact depression, or whether or not it's safe to take antidepressants and nurse at the same time. I suggest you contact a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, so that you can talk to a real professional."

    Sometimes docs fall victim to that most human of impulses: the desire to appear wiser or more knowledgeable than we really are. Sometimes you get good advice when someone pulls an answer out of thin air. In this case, you didn't. You can nurse while using antidepressants. There's no reason to stop nursing at 6 months. And weaning now- how exactly would that help you? You'd still be mothering the same challenging little toddler, only you'd be doing it without one of your most reliable tools! How would that improve your depression issues?

  8. #8
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    Mar 2006

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    at that doc.

    Weaning causes hormonal upsets and can worsen depression.

    There's plenty of safe antidepressants, should you need them, to take while BFing.

    Also, throwing meds at it is so silly if you don't do anything else. You also need a good support group, and plain old counseling, in addition to the support, might be enough.

    I haven't met anyone who just took meds and the depression went away. But I know people who implemented more support and found a good counselor and didn't need meds.

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  9. #9
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    Jan 2006

    Default Re: Fustrated w/ my dr

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*aprilsmagic View Post
    at that doc.

    I haven't met anyone who just took meds and the depression went away. But I know people who implemented more support and found a good counselor and didn't need meds.

    yup...find somebody else to talk with.

  10. #10
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    May 2009
    Where they keep it weird

    Default Re: Fustrated w/ my dr

    Your doctor sounds like a jerk. I take zoloft and am still breastfeeding my almost 2 year old. No need to wean mama!
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