Owen turned 2 yrs old a few weeks ago. He still wants to nurse every few hours during the daytime and several times a night. I have been working on night-weaning him and getting him down to nursing when he wakes up in the morning (6:30am), before nap time (goes down between 11:30-12:30) and before bed (goes down between 7-7:30pm). But, it has been really hard to decrease his nursing sessions. He wants to nurse several times in between waking up, nap, and bedtime and asks several times a night and when I don't nurse him he gets pretty mad and hits/kicks/scratches/yells/cries. I try everything I can think of to distract him but it takes a while to work and the fit still happens. At night time I tell him if he keeps hurting mommy he will need to go sleep in his crib (we mostly co-sleep), that we can cuddle and will nurse in the morning. I don't think he knows what morning is though, it's still dark out when we get up in the morning.
It was MUCH easier to night-wean Emma. I did it over 3 months, she was 18-21 months. She cried for like 20 minutes the first night, 10 the next, and by the thrid night she didn't cry at all when I told her she needed to wait until morning. But I was only not nursing her from 11pm-3am at first and I just increased the amount of time slowly and we went back to night nursing when we traveled or she got sick. But, once she hit 21 months, she didn't nurse from 8pm to 6am. And by the time she was 2 yrs old, I nursed her 1-3 times a day...I was pumping and nursing her baby brother. When she was 2 1/2 yrs old, I hit a wall with nursing her but we continued with no more than once a day and sometimes not even every day, until she was 3yrs 7mos.
But, I feel like I've hit that wall with Owen now. And I feel guilty about not wanting to nurse him as long as I nursed Emma. And for wanting to wean him when he doesn't seem ready. LOTS of kids are weaned before they are 2 yrs old and they do fine...all of my girlfriends have weaned their youngest children and they are 3-6 months younger than him. They seem fine to me. And it's driving me crazy that he shoves his hand down my shirt and yells "milk, mommy, milk!" when we're out, playing with friends, etc. And that's the other thing...he wants to put his hand down my shirt when he nurses and often will grab at my other nipple and it makes me crazy. I say "no thank you, please don't put your hand down my shirt" and offer to hold his hand, but he shoves it back, I pull it out, he shoves it back, and on and on. It's like a battle between us and I hate it! Nursing is not a sweet, loving thing between us anymore. Which makes me want to stop. But, again, I feel guilty because he seems to have so much difficulty with me decreasing his nursing sessions, and I nursed Emma for so much longer than this. It seems like most moms nurse their subsequent children longer than their first and I'd be going the other way.