Re: 9 month old refusing solids
Don't worry. At 9 months, many kids are just getting started with solids. As long as they're nursing enough, a taste of solids is really all they need. (Arguably, a dropper of baby vitamins is a good idea, too. Vitamin D drops, if nothing else.) I know that can be hard to believe when you see what other people's kids are eating, but there's a really wide variation in how much solid food an individual baby is ready for. So you want to look at your kid first, and other people's kids second, or not at all. If your kid is healthy, happy, and gaining weight, there's no reason to worry.
I think you're on the right track with offering the mashed foods and letting your LO experiment with them. Eventually she'll get used to a lumpier consistency, and the gagging will stop. Until then, I think you should be pleased that she's experimenting with lumpy stuff.
Are you allowing her to self-feed, or are you spoon-feeding her? If the latter, I encourage you to try the former.
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