I have a three month old daughter. I have heard many things both for and against co-sleeping. Our current arrangement is to have her in something that is actually CALLED a co-sleeper, which is similar to the upper level of a pack-n-play, and pulls up (attaches with straps under the mattress) to the side of the bed. There is a little rail inbetween us so that she can't roll into me and I can't roll into her. She's an arms' distance from me.
I like having her there and don't want to consider moving her into her own room/crib for some time.
BUT, I don't think we can really consider ourselves "co-sleeping" because we are not cuddled up and don't have the advantages of body contact/warmth etc.
We were scared off the idea of true co-sleeping because of all the recent SIDS information and precautions, but also because we are fairly heavy sleepers and have been dealing with various of our 3 dogs sleeping with us for years, so we have gotten used to sleeping through some fairly uncomfortable/crowded arrangements, and I feared we would not be aware enough of an infant between us. I have napped a couple times while she was beside me on the bed, (not on purpose) and did not move or have any issues but I worry about taking chances and will not do so if I can help it.
But I have friends who swear by co-sleeping, and I long for the tranquil experience they describe. I had to go back to work when my daughter was 2 months old, and I wish we could have the contact of true co-sleeping at night.
Any tips, guidelines, experiences anyone can share with me? I want to feel good about our current arrangement, but don't want to miss out on anything that would help my daughter's development and etc.