I`ve come to a point in our nursing relationship where it would truly benefit me to be able to leave DD for long periods of time and even a night. I feel very selfish and guilty for saying that I really do. But...I am a single mom, I go to school full time and as time goes by I feel DD would do just fine spending the night with my mom or dad. I don`t want to date at the moment but I would like to start meeting new people and doing a *tiny* bit of travelling because at the moment life feels very lonely.
So...DD is obsessed with nursing, but if i`m not home she does just fine. The problem is more naps and bedtime. She has never fallen asleep for anyone. Ever. No matter how tired she is. I am not prepared to wean her completely but I would really love to cut down to maybe 3-4 times a day and night wean as well.
Any tips on night weaning when your a single parent and have no one else around to help? I don`t want to stop co-sleeping (which makes it even more difficult). I was *thinking* (and someone tell me if this is a bad idea), that I might leave her with my dad for the night. He is the ONLY person she will consider laying down with, and overall just adores him. But is that cruel to her? I thought maybe afterwards she would be more open to me putting her down without nursing.
Obviously I don`t want to make this difficult for her at all. I`d be happy to maintain 3-4 sessions a day for as long as she wants, but right now its closer to 20-25 when i`m around, no matter what you try to distract her with. I know if I wasn`t home for a whole day she would do just fine. I can`t stand the tears that come when I try to put off nursing it just breaks my heart
So if i`m being selfish i`m totally ready to hear that. I don`t feel done with nursing. But there have been quite a few opportunities (school related) that i`ve had to turn down and if i`m being entirely honest, I REALLY need a break sometimes. I`m so proud to have nursed her till now (25 months), but I don`t want to tell myself that to justify wanting to at least night wean.
DD IS my number one priority and I will always do whats best for her even if that entails nursing longer then I anticipated. But i`m not even sure this amount of nursing everyday is necessary anymore