I am 2 weeks in to nursing my new DD. I nursed my DS for the first year, and though it was almost four years ago, I don't remember ever getting any sleep for the first year since I was constantly nursing. This time around I figured I would have a new schedule or find a better way of doing things that would give me more rest, but nope, I'm over here doing the exact same things I did with DS.
I nurse on demand. During the day, she likes to sleep a lot and will nurse every two to three hours...sometimes she'll want both breasts, other times she'll want only one, depending on how tired she is. Sometimes, she'll nurse for 5 minutes and there's nothing I can do to make her want more as she is so sleepy.
Her "fussy time" doesn't start until sometime between 8-10pm (when I am ready to sleep!) I'll nurse her til she is happy and asleep....that takes a while. Then I try to burp her, lay her down, and then she gets up within 15 minutes frustrated like she is trying to have a bm or she gets the hiccups. Then I end up nursing her again back to sleep, as my other methods don't work. But, then she usually gets really fussy, and I end up picking her to repeat the cycle once more. I'll get her asleep and settled usually by 11pm or 12am, and then she will wake up every two hours on the dot, to nurse, but doesn't seem satisfied easily or quickly. This goes on until about 8:30am or 9:00am and then the rest of the day is usually smooth.
During the day, I can lay her anywhere with any amount of noise and she usually stays asleep, however, at night it seems that after she wakes up for the first time, the only way to get her asleep again is nuzzled up next to me. I have a cosleeper, but she won't stay in it except for maybe an hour or two tops.
Am I being unrealistic to want to start trying trying trying to get her on some type of schedule? Am I making a mistake by having her in my room or in the cosleeper? With DS I had no schedule, and hardly any sleep for a long time, I really don't want that to be the case the second time around. Please help!