Re: Latching woes and nipple confusion
Have you tried giving him an ounce or so with the bottle before trying to latch him on? I'm just wondering if he would be less frustrated if the edge was taken off his hunger first.
Or maybe you could try doing a lot of skin-to-skin cuddling without trying to nurse for a few days. That might take some of the pressure off and help him (and you!) associate the breast and closeness with comfort without the stress.
It must be so frustrating. I can understand why you're discouraged. It can take a long time for some babies to learn how to nurse, with or without the added complication of nipple confusion. An LLL Leader I know met with a mom whose baby had major nipple confusion and they were doing finger feeding with a SNS since the baby wouldn't take the breast at all. The Leader gave her all the suggestions she could, but afterward was discouraged and said she didn't expect the mom to keep trying to breastfeed much longer. A month later the mom came to our LLL meeting and the baby was exclusively nursing at the breast. So yes, there's hope! It's likely to take some time, a lot of patience and determination, but it's possible.
Like mommal said, even though it's stressful right now, that doesn't mean your baby will always have an aversion to breastfeeding. I can't tell you how many nights my newborn DD and I sat in the dark at 3am, both of us crying our eyes out because it just didn't work. Hang in there!
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