Re: Extremely clingy 14 mo old and touched out momma
I have been here with my son (15 months) for the past two days due to snow, so I feel you. I tend to look at it as a constant weighing: is what I want to do worth the screaming, or not? If I am half way through a task before he starts, I tend to want to finish and just listen to it. A lot of the time I just sit down with him on the couch. If it is really important to you to be able to put her down during a nap, then you have to do that. You have to put her down and pick her back up when she cries, over and over. I think that is the only way they learn. Usually I will try that for half an hour, and then if he is still not down, I will try again in an hour or when he starts showing sleep signs. Some people are fine with holding their LOs through a nap, and that is OK, too, you have to decide what YOU want to do. As for being destructive, the only thing I know to do is baby proof everything. I have locks on the fireplace, computer armoire, and entertainment center. My son loves to push a kitchen chair up to the counter and see what is up there. I either stand right there with him or I try to redirect him to his toys, which inevitably results in screaming. Yesterday I let him pull all of the bread out of the bread box and squish it up somewhat because it made him happy while I was trying to fix dinner. I have removed everything breakable from the table top because he repeatedly, repeatedly, climbs up there. My point is, you have to decide how much mess you are willing to tolerate and how much you want to closely supervise while they explore and test their physical limits. I am fine with rolling toilet paper back up 1,000 times but I drew the line at putting it all into the toilet, so now he is not allowed in the bathroom. You do what you can and set your limits. I hope this ramble makes sense!
Working mom to
Gabbie 3/8/02 BF 15 months
Rose 6/5/04 BF 18 months
Will 10/6/09 BF 22 months and counting