My son is 3 weeks old and I feel as if I'm at my breaking point. I thought that we had the latching on thing solved and then my milk production on point. I'm eating oatmeal, taking fenugreek and goats rue, and drinking mothers milk. I only get about 2oz ea from ea breast on a good day, but i do hear and see him swallowing. The problem is that he never seems satisfied. It takes him FOREVER to nurse and even after that he will cry bloody murder and start rooting after only sleeping 20 min. He doesn't like the pacifier so trying to give him that makes him scream more. i try EVERYTHING to keep him awake while he's nursing but sometimes it just doesn't work and he even gets annoyed and stops nursing altogether. The moment I put him on the breast, he starts to drift and when I take him off he wakes acting hungry. It's truly as if nursing is his sleeping aid except that when my mother was here, she was able to get him to fall asleep.Whether a newborn can be spoiled at this age is now a moot point to me because I think mine is. He doesn't seem to be able to be away from me for more than an hour.
I've listened to the advice of doing the on demand feeding and aside from the fact that after 3 weeks I don't have the stamina for it, I simply don't have that luxury. I have a 20 month old at home and he gets no active play time with me because Evan is ALWAYS nursing. Additionally I don't have family or anything here so it's basically all on me until my husband comes home from work. I'm ready to move him out of my bed so my husband can return and I think it's making the problem worse because he snacks on the breast all night long because it's there. Right now he's been nursing for an hour an he still cries when I try to put him down. I just don't know that I can make it like this for too much longer and that makes me sad because I failed the last time and I truly want to do this. I know I'll regret it if I give up, but I simply cannot go on like this. My family can't take it!