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    Default Ugh DH hurt my feelings a lil

    He made the somment the other night that he didn't want me bfing in public(in front of family too) because it's embarrases him. WHAT?! I told him that it hurt my feelings and that I wasn't in a hurry to stop and he said he didn't mind if nobody else was around. REALLY!? How would you handle this? We have family coming to our home for Christmas Eve and if it gets into the evening she will want to nini and I don't want to go to another room. LO is 15 months right now. She nurses mostly at night especially right now I think it's because she has a bunch of teeth coming in. I am a stay at home momma so I am available all day.
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    I would continue to do it, it's not really something I care to negotiate really...my child needs to eat and there is nothing indecent about it.
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    Default Re: Ugh DH hurt my feelings a lil

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*Jenna562 View Post
    I would continue to do it, it's not really something I care to negotiate really...my child needs to eat and there is nothing indecent about it.


    If he feels uncomfortable by it, then maybe he should be the one to leave the room.
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*Jenna562 View Post
    I would continue to do it, it's not really something I care to negotiate really...my child needs to eat and there is nothing indecent about it.


    It's not up to him to mind or not.
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    Its what is best for your child. You are doing everything right!

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*MommyToAC View Post
    If he feels uncomfortable by it, then maybe he should be the one to leave the room.
    Well said!

    However, is there a family member who in particular leads him to feel embarrassed? Like, maybe Uncle Ike is just a big old jack@ss and can't keep from staring, or your MIL can't help making a nasty comment about how it's time to wean, and that's what makes your DH feel uncomfortable? If it were a one-time, just-for-the-holidays deal, I might cover up just to preserve family harmony. I mean, the holidays are stressful enough...

    But in general: your house, your breasts, your rules!
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommal View Post
    But in general: your house, your breasts, your rules!
    I would consider changing my behaviors slightly around creepy old uncle-whoever, but that doesn't mean never nursing in public again. Have you asked him to elaborate about what, exactly, embarrasses him, and where, and in front of whom? Maybe he has reasons you're not aware of?


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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mommal View Post
    But in general: your house, your breasts, your rules!

    Your DH should be your biggest supporter.
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    Default Re: Ugh DH hurt my feelings a lil

    ugh, so frustrating....I would ask him what about nursing is embarassing him.
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    Default Re: Ugh DH hurt my feelings a lil

    sorry that you're going through this, the holidays are often a tricky time of year. I agree with the principle of it. It's a loving thing though to be considerate of our spouse's feelings, which are by definition not logical.

    Isn't there a bunch a major institutions who reccommend bfing past the age of one? The American Pedi, UNICEF, WHO, the British Pedi... is there anyone who knows this stuff? Perhaps pointing out those policies will help your DH support you.
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