Welcome, and congratulations on the new baby! I'm sorry you've had such a rough time so far. It sounds like you really got terrible "help" from the folks at the hospital- "forcing" the baby to take the breast? Now really!
So, what can you do? Here's what I would do:
1. Contact a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC. Often the LCs at hospitals are nurses who have taken a short course about breastfeeding. They're not necessarily real professionals.
2. PUMP. Getting your milk to come in and maintaining a good supply is all about removing milk from the breast at regular intervals. If you don't remove milk, your body will rapidly cease production. If your child continues not to take the breast, I suggest getting your hands on a HOSPITAL-GRADE PUMP with CORRECTLY SIZED BREAST SHIELDS, and pumping for 10 minutes per side every 2 hours during the day and around every 3 at night. Here are some useful inks on pumping: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/p..._decrease.html and http://www.kellymom.com/bf/supply/ma...pply-pump.html
3. Follow the tips from this link on getting your baby to the breast: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/...to-breast.html In particular, use the instant reward and skin-to-skin techniques to coax your baby into thinking that the breast is a nice place to be.
4. Check out these links on how to feed your baby when she's not nursing: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/a...e-feeding.html and http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/bottle-feeding.html There are alternatives to bottles out there, and if you must use a bottle, there are ways to make it more breastfeeding-friendly.
5. If you're not sleeping with your baby, you may want to start. Many moms find that babies who resist latching during the day will latch on at night, when they are more relaxed.
Hang in there! We'll do whatever we can to help!
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"