Re: New to this & about to throw in the towel!
Welcome and congratulations on the new baby! It's totally normal to feel extremely frustrated when your baby is still so young and there's still so much to figure out. But if you can stick with it, it gets so much better! (You've had 2 other kids- even when you formula-feed there's a lot that makes you in the early days, right?)
Newborn babies tend to be pretty sleepy. As long as the baby isn't jaundiced, sleepiness isn't necessarily a cause for concern. Just try to wake the baby and feed every 2-3 hours. You're not always going to be successful but it pays to try. And follow those links from Andrea on waking sleepy babies- they're good ones.
He sleeps ALOT. Lastnight he slepts 5 hours straight before wanting to feed. Then he fell asleep after feeding for only 20 minutes and I couldn't get him to stay awake.
Can you tell us the following:
I'm so worried about his weight gain which he isn't gaining like the Dr. wants and the Dr. is concerned too.
1. How much did your baby weigh at birth?
2. How much has he weighed at each check-up since then?
3. Has he always been weighed naked, using the same scale?
4. Did you have IV fluids during birth?
5. How many wet and poopy diapers does your baby have in a 24 hour period?
6. What color are your baby's poops? (Don't be afraid to be descriptive- you can't gross us out!)
7. How is nursing going, aside from the sleepiness? Are you at all uncomfortable, sore, cracked, etc.?
The answers to those questions will help us evaluate whether or not there's really reason to be concerned about your baby's weight gain. Remember, it is normal for a newborn to lose up to 10% of birth weight, and to not regain birth weight until 2 weeks of age.
It is normal to see a lot of color change in your milk, especially in the early days as your milk changes over from colostrum (which is golden yellow and clear) to true milk (which is varying shades of white).
Also, why does my milk look clear or barely white? At first it was white but after a day it turned. Is this bad?
The clear, barely white stuff you're seeing is milk. When milk is expressed from the breast, the first milk to come out is watery, relatively low in fat, and thirst-quenching. Often this is referred to as "foremilk." As the feeding progresses, the fat content of the milk gradually increases and the milk changes from clear and watery-looking to whiter and more creamy-looking. This creamy milk is generally called "hindmilk." If you express a few drops at the end of a feeding, you are likely to see milk that looks more like what you expect. Both foremilk and hindmilk are normal variations of human milk- remember, what you produce isn't pasteurized and homogenized like the milk you buy at the store!
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