Re: Am i doing it wrong??
I'm not sure about that. I'm in the process of weaning my daughter right now and the main thing I've done (not perfectly!) is not set myself up in situations that seem to demand nursing, like you're talking about. I don't sit down much at all really, and certainly not in our regular nursing spots. I don't lay down with her and I try to only hug her when one or both of us are upright. Sounds weird, in a way, but nursing hurts and also fills me with hormonal pregnancy rage. Anyway.
I did nurse her this morning. She wasn't freaking out, and hadn't even started crying, but I could tell that she was going to get there if I continued to offer alternatives. One thing that I think about weaning is that it is a two way street and some days they will nurse and others they won't. She obviously needed to nurse the other morning in bed and good for you for recognizing that and not sticking to an arbitrary schedule that doesn't mean anything to her.
Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months