Prior to the birth of my child, I think my most mistaken assumption was how my husband and I would be able to share child care with a newborn. Not 50-50, but perhaps closer to 65-35. I imagined that when DH came home from work, I could hand over the babe for long chunks of time. And that I could slip away to a work function if only I left enough EBM.
Well! Then there's what really happens. DH can take 2.5 mo DS for about half an hour or 45 min per day and we can still safely assume DS will stay happy. But I have to stay close by in case he starts fussing.
And I can slip away for a couple of hours, knowing that either things will be pretty OK or that DS will spend 1.5 hours crying and that when I get home I'll see that DH has pulled out each fun and/or soothing toy in an effort to stop the tears. (Guess which was the case last night.)
So! Here are my questions:
1--Does this sound familiar?
2--Do you have any suggestions to make mommy-away time easier? (DH tried serving the EBM at slightly different temps. DS last night was not interested in the bottle, though he has successfully taken it in the past and although he was hungry.)
3--Was your child like this and then things got better? What age did that happen?
4--What do you say when DH says (jokingly, half-serious, frustrated or feeling sad), "The baby just doesn't like me."?
My theory is that sooner or later, DS won't want to always be in the arms of the one with the lactating breasts. I just hope that time is before he starts crawling. DH has already done more cooking, cleaning, etc, so that I'm free for DS. But I never thought I'd see the day when scrubbing the tub would be a refreshing change of pace...