My daughter is 19 months old and loves to nurse... I work a lot of hours, so the nursing and co-sleeping feel essential for both my daughter and me. I wish I didn't have to work so much, but I don't have a choice. At least we really spend together as much time as possible. In short, I do not want to wean her now.
But... there are a couple factors that make it really hard lately:
1. She won't go to sleep without nursing. I lie down in bed with her and it usually takes an hour before I can leave without her waking up. More often than not, she wakes up about an hour after she falls asleep, to nurse again - another 30-60 minutes. It is a problem because I cannot get anything done in the evening, and oftentimes I do have 1-2 hours of work to do by the morning. Those 2 hours every evening of lying in bed add a lot of stress, and I hate feeling that she's holding me captive.
2. When she nurses she loves kneading the other nipple - the pain wakes me up at night, and when I block her way she stops nursing (!) and begins heartbreaking weeping and crying "amma amma" (her word for nursing)... it almost seems as if holding the second breast is more important to her than the nursing itself. I've tried teaching her to be gentle and it helps a little when she's awake, but not when she does it in her sleep.
I guess that these two issues of discomfort are both signs of *me* being ready to wean her. But I do think that it is *not* the right time for us to wean her. She is definitely not ready for it; and I work too much for it to be fair to her (or to me for that matter). In a few months I'll have to work less and that'll be a better time for weaning.
In a perfect world: after her bath she nurses, brushes her teeth (which doesn't happen now, and I know that's not good), then reads a story with either me or daddy, then falls asleep without nursing...
Is that even possible? And if you think it is - any tips as to how we get there? I'd love to hear your advice.