Re: Can I just tell you he nurses like a newborn?
Granted my DS has some health issues at play, but he nursed like a newborn -- usually every 2 hours, at least -- until he was 2 years old. He slowly cut back from there and then, when he was about 2 1/2 he suddenly just stopped nursing except to go to sleep and to wake up (which was still frequent at night, but barely at all during the day).
He still nurses at night (he's 3 1/2), but he does sleep for longer stretches than ever before. Honestly, I think that for some LO's the combination of all the developmental changes -- physical, emotional and social -- just really overwhelm them and for some, nursing is where that reveals itself.
I totally understand your feelings about sleep. I gave up a thriving landscaping business because I would just randomly forget the names of plants and other important words while talking, and the idea of trying to sit and draw up plans just seemed impossible. It was really hard to let go (especially because I am at an age where it isn't easy to get back in and make a go of it), but I was fortunate to be able to do so, and I have done odd/temp jobs when we've needed additional income.
My own personal choice to just continue breastfeeding on demand had mostly to do with my trust in my son's needs and intuition. I just couldn't ever shake the feeling that he still NEEDED to nurse the way he did (which, again, had a little more oomph in his case since he also didn't really eat solids until he was 2). So my advice is to sit with the idea of night weaning, feel it with all that you know about yourself and your LO. It may be just the things to help him sleep. Or it may not. IMO it needs to feel okay to you that he is night weaned even if he still wakes up just as much (which for those with partners who can get up with them, it often is).
I found the period between 18 and 30 months to be the hardest for me in terms of confusion about my role in our breastfeeding relationship. I had a lot of conflicting feelings, and, in the end, I chose to just go with my intuition, rather than my sleep deprived and desperate brain.
Mama to Lorenzo, born 4/25/2007. NICU graduate, Gastro-Esohapgeal Reflux, Obstructive Sleep Apnea, Sensory Processing Disorder...alive and thriving thanks to breastfeeding and co-sleeping.
Those who say it can't be done should not interrupt the person doing it.