Thanks for all the advice, especially about consulting a nutritionalist. And I can imagine having a totally different attitude if I could sleep through the night! DD1 seems to be making this transition herself, but DD2 wakes up every couple hours. She is 20 lbs. at 8 mos. so I don't think she needs milk 4 times a night but withholding milk just seems to make her wake up more so I end up nursing her just to get the extra shut-eye.
Any more tips on feeding? Should I be giving them solids more than 3x a day? Does anyone give flax oil or similar supplements for good fats?