I have had a recent episode of low milk supply leading to my baby not gaining enough weight. The baby's paediatrician who has been very supportive has told me to try and relax and continue the nursing and that we'll check back in a few weeks. We first checked her right about the time I noticed a problem and then two weeks later during which time she had gained only 5 oz. The Ped also discouraged me from starting solids until my baby is 6 months old.
However, both my husband and my mother are questioning this. My husband's gut reaction to any feeding problem is "Let's start the formula". He has a friend who has a daughter about 8 months older than ours, and they started supplementing with formula when their baby was 6 weeks old. My husband thinks everything this friend and his wife are doing is the right thing to do. Meanwhile my Mum is telling me to start solids. That's 'cos her neighbour's baby who is about 3 weeks older than my baby started solids about a month ago.
I feel so inadequate when I hear this. I feel selfish to want to continue to exclusively breastfeed, and under a lot of pressure to produce more milk (which probably isn't helping), and it is only the paediatrician's advice (I told her of the pressure I am getting) that helps me continue. I can tell everyone to shut up because the ped said to keep nursing no matter what. But everytime someone tells me to supplement or start solids, I am taking it so personally. I feel awful and have been trying every trick under the sun to increase my supply - which has worked a bit but only slowly. It's lead to me valuing my breastmilk like blood or something. And I still feel like I am being very selfish - nursing my baby just to show I can.
why do I take this so personally? And why do I get so hurt when people say things like, "Oh let's just start formula/solids/whatever"? How can I explain it to people?