Hi! My son is 8 weeks old, and we had a really rough start to bfing. He spend a week in the nicu withdrawing my medicine that I had to take while pregnant due to a bad back injury. I wasn't informed that he would be withdrawing, they told me repeatedly he would be perfectly fine and if I stopped I would either miscarry, or go into premature labor. In the NICU, he was on a 3 hr feeding schedule that had NO flex to it. If I wasn't there or he didn't bf well within 15 mins, they literally took him from me and stuck a bottle in his mouth. I pumped every 3 hrs the whole time he was there, but I didn't and never have had any luck in pumping, so he was probably getting at most 50% bm. When we got home, I dedicated all our time to exclusively breastfeeding.
I believe that from the very get go, he has been latching poorly. I think his latch was what led to a clogged duct which then led to a horrible case of mastits when he was 3 weeks old. Once I got over that, we almost ran into it again but thankfully I was able to unclog before it worsened. My nipples have hurt from day 1 of him nursing. I have read, watched basically anything and everything I can to try and correct this issue.
When I tickle his lip to try and get him to open wide, he doesn't do this. As soon as anything touches anywhere near his mouth, he immediately begins sucking motions. Everyone keeps telling me over and over to get him to open his mouth, and I tell them over and over, HE WONT! Now when he nurses, when he is done, my nipple is flattened and white on the tip. And for hours afterwards it burns and hurts horribly. I figured this was thrush, so we treated both of us with Gentian Violet for about 5 days and no luck making the pain go away.
If anyone can shed ANY light at all on how I can get him to get a deeper latch and stop sucking on just my nipple, I would love you forever. I met with a LLL leader a few weeks ago and much to my disappointment, she wasn't a real big help at all. I described everything to her and she just kept nodding her head and saying Yep Yep Yep. She reassured me that I am doing everything right, it is him who isn't cooperating and is just being lazy.
So, any thoughts? Anything? I would really appreciate anything at all. Thanks!