Hi All, I have a gorgeous 4 month old baby boy who for the last 6 weeks has been getting worse and worse at feeding during the day. I now know, after advice from a LLL volunteer that this is because he is so distracible and what he is doing is reverse cycling. Also that this is a normal phase some babies go through. This is a relief to know as I was getting so stressed thinking he must be ill or something.
Anyway I am really struggling with this. I feed him in a dark, quiet room, have a fan on for white noise and swaddle him. Even then it is really hard to get him to feed at all and there is lots of crying. I used to be able to, if all else failed, wait until he was asleep or drowsy and then feed him. Even this doesn't work now, he just wakes up and screams. I am getting a bit desperate with this. If I thought a bottle would mean he fed better I would use one but he won't have it at all either.
I feel I have no life, I can't really go anywhere as he is constantly hungry and grumpy. It breaks my heart that I can't seem to feed him and make him happy, knowing it is normal behaviour is reassuring but doesn't really make it any easier to cope with. Also I have a 3 year old who is going a bit mad stuck in with me and screamer.
I don't think there is much else I can do except deal with it on a daily basis and hope this phase doesn't go on for months and it gets better. I just wondered if anyone has any more ideas or can reassure me it will get better sometime. How did other people cope with this?