Re: Weaning when neither mom nor bub wants to
I'm sorry, mama. I know how hard it is to have to stop when neither of you are ready. I had to wean my son abruptly at 9 months because of his health issues and it was emotionally and physically very difficult for me. It is a good thing that you are able to take it a little more gradually.
The Gordon method worked for me when I night weaned my daughter, like others I went at our own pace with it. She was about 18 or 19 mos old when we started. Once she was night weaned I stopped nursing her to sleep by telling her she could nurse while I sang twinkle twinkle 3 times, then I'd count down in between each repetition and tell her how many were left. After the first couple of nights she started popping off on her own when I finished the 3 repetition. My plan was to reduce the number of times I'd sing it slowly until she wasn't nursing to sleep anymore, but after a few weeks she just stopped asking (I was pregnant and I'm pretty sure I didn't have enough to keep her interested).
During the days I just offered her distractions- a treat, snack, drink, toy, game, trip to the playground, etc. I usually tried to offer or just give the distraction before she asked, that way I wasn't telling her no. When she did ask I'd say "yes you can have milk in a minute, do you want _________ first?" Most of the time she wanted the distraction. If she did persist wanting to nurse I let her.
Feel free to PM me if you want, like I've said I've been there and I know how hard it is so if there's anything I can do to help just let me know.
Last edited by @llli*norasmommy; August 24th, 2010 at 10:55 AM.
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