Re: Working through the emotions of having an older nursling
I started feeling overwhelmed by all the desire to nurse everywhere, all the time and finally decided to make a rule about only nursing at home (or at least in a home). He gets upset about it now and then -- especially if he is feeling tired -- but it has worked really well for us. It was also the beginning of me talking to him about this nursing relationship being about BOTH of us -- that we have to work together to find ways to nurse that we can both live with. We are both learning to compromise and it feels healthy, if sometimes challenging. I do make exceptions, but only after we've talked about it, about why I am making the exception. Interestingly, he is beginning to do the same thing -- telling me why he just doesn't feel like having mama milk at some time he would ordinarily want it. To me, that's the whole point -- communication. Not just about nursing, but about all of it. We are going to be in each others hearts and space for a long, long time -- I feel like we're going to have to be able to talk things through and we might as well start now.
Mama to Lorenzo, born 4/25/2007. NICU graduate, Gastro-Esohapgeal Reflux, Obstructive Sleep Apnea, Sensory Processing Disorder...alive and thriving thanks to breastfeeding and co-sleeping.
Those who say it can't be done should not interrupt the person doing it.