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    Default Feeling so guilty

    I know I am a bit of a worry-wort...

    But last night, in preparation for a nursing session, I was holding my 3.5 week old in the upright position (like for burping) and as I adjusted my position, she too moved (and tends to move her head a lot, I try to prevent it from falling too hard), she quickly slid down my belly a couple inches- resulting in suddenly hitting her face on my shoulder. I of course quickly cradled her to try and make it better, and at first she seemed a little shocked (as if to say, "wait, what just happened?") but second or two later started crying. Today she has acted normal though.

    I asked the pediatrician if she could hurt herself by head-butting my shoulder, and she said not really, and that she'd probably have to really fall or something like that to sustain an injury.

    I feel horrible about it! Should I be worried?
    Last edited by JustSasha; October 4th, 2006 at 01:36 PM.

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    Default Re: Feeling so guilty

    Hehe... bumps and accidents happen. Your little babe is more resilient than she seems! I can assure you that we have all had the "oh crap" moments when our little ones' heads go swinging into an arm or chest, or when our (clipped!) fingernails manage to somehow scratch our baby's poor skin...

    I wouldn't worry about it, if she is acting normally. Bumps happen... and as much as we want our precious little ones to be safe, they'll be getting them all their life.

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    Don't worry, we all have those moments (or will). I felt awful the other day when DD fell off the bed. I don't know why I set her there, but I did. She screamed for 10 min and I thought I'd really hurt her. She was fine. They are pretty resiliant. But I understand your fear. Be thankful and know you're not alone.

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    Sorry to say this, but you will have to get used to it

    I dropped one of the twins when they were teeny tiny and Ana always has a scrape on her head from falling on concrete at least once a week


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    I tried to tell myself that accidents happen and everybody makes mistakes, but sometimes it just really helps to hear it from other people (moms especially!)


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    Lets see...dd has fallen off the chair while strapped in her carseat, fallen out of a very faulty high chair, I have stepped on her fingers while she crawled around in the kitchen while I cooked, and those are only the ones I remember right off the top of my head! I hate to say it too, but you'll have to get used to it .

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    Babies are fragile, yes, but they are quite resilliant as well. When my son was about 5 months old, I had him in one of those strollers that the car seat fits on, and we hit a bump in the sidewalk and the whole thing went over. The top of his head hit the pavement even though he was buckled in. This was seven years ago, and they are made differently now. I rushed him to the ER and several other times after he started crawling and walking. I have many pictures of him with bumps on his forehead. Now, my DD is 5 months and I am hoping I take those bumps easier. I changed her diaper on a bed once and turned for just a second to grab a diaper and boom, I saw her falling. These things happen. Do your best to try and prevent accidents but they are going to happen.

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    My poor DS has a black eye right now. He was playing with a toy and hit himself in the eye with it. It looks terrible! What's worse, we are flying up to see Nana tomorrow and her poor grandson looks like he's been in a bar fight!

    It happens and I think it hurts us more than them.

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    Don't even sweat it!! I wacked my dd's head on the door frame once when she was going through a "throw herself wildly backward because she can" stage. She's fine and I've really learned that babies are soooo resiliant.
    It's so exhausting being a mom and worrying about everything little thing. Now I understand why my mom is just a little crazy...

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaurasMom View Post
    Don't even sweat it!! I wacked my dd's head on the door frame once when she was going through a "throw herself wildly backward because she can" stage.
    I did that yesterday. In fact, she has just started walking and fell and banged her head on the hardwood floor ... so I rushed to comfort nurse her, she finally calmed down and was happy again ... I picked her up to walk out of the room and banged her head on the door frame, starting everything all over again, and so I nursed her again to calm her back down. Gosh, I felt horrible!

    But boo boos and bumps happen all the time with babies ... especially when they become mobile, so, yeah, unfortunately, you'll need to get used to it as hard as it is to see your little one hurting. I do think that half the time Adeline cries more out of surprise and shock that she fell than actual pain. After she got used to falling she doesn't cry most of the time because she's not taken by surprise by it as much. But the ouchies are hard ... especially now with the walking starting. Crawling was bad enough, bruises and black eyes galore from banging herself into things and falling down ... but now she's falling from a much higher level and at a much faster speed!!

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