Re: weaning is somewhat close i fear..
How old is Allie?
Nursing eventually becomes mostly for comfort and bonding and not the milk itself. It actually doesn't matter if they're not swallowing often (or at all). Sometimes they are okay with or prefer to just comfort nurse and be *at* the breast and cuddling. Don't stress about the milk at this point.
My DS1 has gone for an entire month without nursing. He nursed when I was pregnant with zero milk for several months. He could care less if he gets a mouthful or just a taste. He just likes to have that bonding at the breast, one-on-one time. We have been like this for an entire year.
Just when I think he's ready to let it go, he starts asking more. And as far as 'holding' the breasts, that is your own preference. It doesn't bother me at all and both of my boys are comforted by them whether it's a hand or a mouth near.