I've decided to let ds2 self wean. He turned two last Saturday and still nurses one to two times at night between say 8pm and 7am, and on and off all day long. If I'm not home he doesn't seem to miss it, so on days when we are out and about he may only nurse three times or so from the time we get up until we go to bed. On days we are home he does drive by nursing pretty much constantly.
So here's my dilemma. I really want him to self wean, but I want to start setting some limits. I know that the three key nursing sessions for him right now are morning, before nap, and before bed. I want to keep those sessions for as long as he needs them. I'm also not opposed to more than three times during the day, however I'm so done with the constant nursing when we are home. How do I refuse some nursing sessions and allow others and still let him self wean? Is it really self weaning in this case? He seems to want to nurse in the morning before we get out of bed, after breakfast, mid morning, after lunch, before nap, after nap, after dinner, and before bed. That's really starting to take a toll on me. That's 8 times during the day and twice at night. Plus the drive by's that last only a few seconds. I feel drained. And sometimes I can distract him, but that means I have to be standing up - as soon as my behind touches a chair he's on me.
I'm open to all opinions and suggestions