Re: I've had it!
Sorry you're going through this. If you saw them three or four times a year, and your baby was older (as in - NOT A BABY), I wouldn't be too concerned about it. But you see them two or three times a week. In my opinion, someone you see that often must behave more like a parent. I have one very obese nephew and one soon to be very obese nephew that get coke and candy and all kinds of dessert a few times a week at their grandparents house.
I have a sugar addiction and do not intend to pass that on to my child, if I can help it. If she gets a sweets overload a few times a year, I won't like it but I won't make a big deal about it.
It seems like you have had a pretty hard time in general with your parents and food for your DS. I wouldn't let them feed him AT ALL anymore. Right now it's sweets. In a few years it could be that they encourage him talking back to you, or you'll hear things like "Well, I know Mom said that it's not OK, but Grandpa says that it is"
I hear this all the time when I'm at my in-laws in regards to my nephews. I know that I am coming on really strong here, but this is an issue that really chaps my hide. I would be FURIOUS if anyone gave my 15 month old whipped cream. FURIOUS. I have a hard enough time getting her to sleep without her getting all sugared up.
Sorry, I went way off the tracks here. I hope you can work this out with your parents. And I think what Lynn said about the pediatrician is great. I use it all the time with people that question my parenting.
Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months