Mostly I just need to vent, maybe you LLLadies have some advise I could use.
Here's the situation, my DH and 8mo old DS and I are currently living with my MIL and FIL. Translation: She is ALWAYS around and is EXTREMELY opinonated She is retired and I'm a SAHM. She had 3 children all of which were FF. I was unable to BF my DS1 so this is all very new territory for me. I want to do the very best for my DS and I would like to continue BFing until he and I are both ready to stop. Other than my own mother who I rarely speak to, my MIL is the most unsupportive person I've met of BFing. She thinks that at this point he should be eating 3 great big meals of solids a day and when she feeds him I've noticed she tries to cram as much into him as possible totally ignoring his cues about when to stop. Right now I feed him BM on demand and usually one "meal" of solids in a day, sometimes 2. By meal I mean anywhere from 2 bites to about 1/2 a jar of fruits and veggies, occasionally some cereal or oatmeal with fruit mixed in (like a tablespoon or so). My DH and I think my DS is doing fine this way. My MIL acts as if I'm starving him. Today she told me some babies give up their bottles at this point and just eat "regular" food, which I take to mean she wants me to stop BFing all together, which is NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! I've tried telling her to slow down, I've tried explaining to her BM is the best thing for him right now, that is has more nutrition than anything else, but its like talking to a wall. I've tried to tell her my DS has a very tiny tummy and needs to eat small meals and needs to BF often and EVERY time I tell her that she acts like its the first time she's heard such a thing. She even tries to tell me random things like "so and so BF her babies and they all ate way more by this age" I don't want to be rude to her because we are living in her house, but I do know how to take care of my baby! I should also add yes, I've considered BLS but with our current living situation and the potential mess of it I can't do that. My MIL is a super neat freak and I can't deal with the added stress of that. Thanks for listening LLLadies.
Hi, I'm Faith, a Wife, Mom, Stepmom and SAHM
I married my best friend Rodney on October 17, 2009
DS1 Andy Born May 11, 2002
DS2 Ethan Born May 18, 2009 Nursed 2 years 7 months & 2 days
DSS1 Benjamin Born September 24, 1989