proud but exhausted working mammy to two high needs babies
- my surprise baby: the one and only D-Man born 3 weeks late (5/5/08) at 9 lbs 14 oz and 21.5 inches, and
- the shock H-Girl born about a week late (10/7/09) at 8lbs 15oz and 20.75 inches.
If I am here I am covered in baby (probably two) and fighting for control of the keyboard.
Family beds are awesome
Wondering if you have PPD? Take the screening and see your doctor. You deserve to feel better.
oh, and getting an epi is your choice, it does have both good and bad things about it. that being said, i have had 3 of them.
Married to my Sugar Daddy
Mom to Matt (5/14/97)
Kelly Anne (3/14/08)
I forgot a really great site.
GREAT videos and tips on latching
As far as birthing alone. Please do look into a doula (and just in case you've never heard that...a Doula is a birth professional who cames and supports you during your entire labor). Labor and birth can be stressful in parts and it could be a really nice thing to have another woman there who is with you and stays by your side to support you. A lot of OBGYN's can refer you to a Doula or even ask WIC. I have heard of some birth coaches being WIC counselors too. But I'm also sure that if you are in fact alone that the nurses in Labor and delivery will take extra special care of you
If you are in the U.S., 2 other programs you can look into are Early Head Start and Help Me Grow (they should be in the phone book). Both support pregnant mamas and children birth to three. They can help with a lot of your needs as a young new mama!
Good luck! And I completely agree with the previous posts in that I am AMAZED at your preparedness to be a mommy. You are a very wise young woman and I am so happy you have found these forums! Please keep coming back. I know that we would all love to support you and little Brandon in your next big journey.
Silas born May 2009 ~ Nursed 18 mos, weaned during pregnancy, unweaned at 24 months, still nursing when he feels like it
Lola born March 2011 ~ The Mary Lou Retton of toddler nursing
Married to Brandon
Using cloth on both bums
We hibernate together
Here is another site with info on epidural risks. One big problem with all interventions, no matter how minor or positive they seem, is that they often necessitate further interventions, which in turn create a need for more interventions. This "cascade of intervention" is how many women are pushed from a birth that's going just fine to an emergency situation.
This is not to say "don't get an epidural" if you feel you need one. It's to suggest that the best tool you can have when it comes to birth is education- if you're an informed consumer and you know the risks of various interventions ahead of time, you won't regret your decisions later on.
If you can get a pump, do. Pumps can come in very handy- like if you run into a situation where need to be apart from your baby for a while, or a situation in which your baby won't nurse.I switched to doing all my classes online so I can stay with the baby, so I don't think I'll need a pump.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"
Hi, I'm Allison
Mama to Henry Carl 12/28/06
7lbs, 15 oz, 20.5 in
Breastfed for 20 months!
Mama to Ryan Thomas 11/20/08
8lbs, 7 oz, 21 in
Breastfed for 30 months!
Mama to angel 4/03, Mama to angel 12/05
Feb TBTTW 33.1/70
What I meant about the birthing classes is that some of them teach really nothing at all about the labor process or ways to handle childbirth without meds. The local hospital here (with a 50% section rate) has a class that pretty much teaches about meds you can have during labor and NOTHING about how to manage without meds. It's frustrating because I know several women who later said they would have liked to have tried without, but the hospital pushed the meds so much they gave in and didn't realize they had a choice....and they had never prepared since they took this stupid class. A couple of them ended up with c-sections from all the interventions
Same class also teaches silly nonsense about breastfeeding.
If you want one, it's an option. But look at both sides to the issue. I recently posted two links on epidurals and their risks -- most of which the medical community will never tell you about --- in the pregnancy options forum
Get a doula.
Mama to my all-natural boys: Ian, 9-4-04, 11.5 lbs; Colton, 11-7-06, 9 lbs, in the water; Logan, 12-8-08, 9 lbs; Gavin, 1-18-11, 9 lbs; and an angel 1-15-06
18+ months and for Gavin, born with an incomplete cleft lip and incomplete posterior cleft palate
Sealed for time and eternity, 7-7-93
Always babywearing, cosleeping and cloth diapering. Living with oppositional defiant disorder and ADHD. Ask me about cloth diapering and sewing your own diapers!
1. I think it's because sadly, that's the way most mothers end up going.
2. They only try to talk you into using formula if you're having huge breastfeeding issues and your little one is losing weight. At the hospital where I had my daughters, the postpartum nurses were all VERY supportive of my decision to breastfeed with the exception of one who offered a pacifier to me when she was two days old because "it's easier to get rid of the pacifier than it is to get rid of the thumb."
3. It's likely that you'll make PLENTY of milk, but new mothers (including myself) tend to be worriers and one of the easiest things for a new mom to focus on and worry about is her milk production. That can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy; just relax and let your baby help your body work its magic. =)
4. I think older mothers tend to research everything to death and are more knowledgeable about the true benefits of breastfeeding than younger mothers, but that's just my assumption and is not based upon any scientific method whatsoever.
5. Just make sure you're eating a balanced diet with roughly 600 extra calories per day and plenty of water and you're golden, although I would suggest cutting out caffeine (and alcohol).
6. Breastfed babies often eat more often because breastmilk is so easily digestible. I don't know how you feel about cosleeping, but it's wonderful for breastfed babies and their moms because mom can literally fall asleep while the little one is still nursing.
7. I suggest you have nipple cream such as Lansinoh nipple cream on hand; other than that, if you're not going back to work, the only items you need are your breasts. If you ARE going back to work then you need to examine pumps, breastmilk storage kits, and bottles that are as close to Mama's breasts as possible.
8. Some babies are allergic to some of the foods their mothers eat, but not the milk itself.
9. My doc instructed me to continue taking my prenatal vitamins as long as I breastfed; as long as I take those and eat a balanced diet I don't have to supplement anything for my youngin.
10. I don't believe feeding on demand causes metabolism issues later; I believe quite the opposite - but that's my opinion and I have no facts to show you to back it up.
11. Breastfeeding will not damage mom's body as long as she takes care of herself. Quite the opposite - breastfeeding helps heal you faster and - I don't know about other moms - but I haven't had a sniffle since I've been breastfeeding.
Wife to DH February 17, 2004.
First time mom to my precious baby girl, welcomed to this world August 3, 2009!
Birth: 6 lbs. 6 oz. and 18.5"
6 months: 14 lbs. 14.5 oz. and 26"
1 year: 20 lbs. and 30"
Woohoo! We made it one year!
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Single, babywearing, barefoot in the grass mama to 3 wonderful babies!
and my Jack 11-17-02, gone to God at 11 weeks
"While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about."
"I am going to be happy today, though the skies may be cloudy or gray. No matter what comes my way, I am going to be happy today."
Hi, I'm Cyndie. Married my , Tony.
Lydia--15 mo and still nursing
Brenden--6.5 yo bf for 6 months
Preston (SS)--13.5 yo
Brittany--12.5 yo bf for 6 weeks
"You are not a pacifier; you are a Mom. You are the sun, the moon, the earth, you are liquid love, you are warmth, you are security, you are comfort in the very deepest aspect of the meaning of comfort.... but you are not a pacifier!" -- Paula Yount