Re: Feeling bad, getting annoyed with nursing
Well, I certainly know that feeling of annoyance -- my son nursed like a newborn for over 2 years (literally every 1-2 hours, 24 hours a day) and there have definitely been times when I felt like crawling out of my skin and walking away.
My personal take on it is that nursing, especially nursing a toddler, is a relationship with two very active participants. And both participants have a right to have their needs heard and valued, in order to (if needed) compromise and achieve a balance that works for everyone. What we have done is talk A LOT about nursing -- when I feel comfortable doing it, when I don't; when he wants it, why he wants it; how one day -- not today, not tomorrow, but someday, we won't do it anymore, etc. I take any opportunity I can to talk with him about it -- to express myself and also encourage him to understand and express his feelings about it. Sometimes I nurse him when I don't feel like it, and sometimes he doesn't get to nurse when he wants to, but we both always know that an acceptable compromise has been achieved, because we talk about it.
It's tempting to passively wait for a child to self-wean, but sometimes that isn't an acceptable option. By communicating through the process, I believe we set the stage for communicating through the many experiences in life when our perspectives are not quite the same.
Mama to Lorenzo, born 4/25/2007. NICU graduate, Gastro-Esohapgeal Reflux, Obstructive Sleep Apnea, Sensory Processing Disorder...alive and thriving thanks to breastfeeding and co-sleeping.
Those who say it can't be done should not interrupt the person doing it.