(Sorry it's so long, I'm copying it from another forum where somebody suggested I ask here for help)
Does anyone have any advice to get my milk back, or is this how weaning is
supposed to happen? dd gradually, over the years, reduced down to two feeds
a day, one before nap and one before bed. We dropped the afternoon nap about
6 weeks ago, so she just has the bedtime feed now. She is still doing this,
but for the last few nights has been sad and told me there is no milk. She
tells me she last got some milk at her grandad's house, over the summer -
once (and I remember this clearly, it was mid morning and we were both wide
awake). She has told me there was no milk on other occasions, and I took it
with a pinch of salt as she was still so keen to nurse.....
But now it really does seem that it has gone. Maybe I haven't had milk for a
couple of months, or even longer - I can't really know. I don't understand
why it's gone, and I can't help feeling that I have let her down. She seems
really sad at the point where we nurse (after books and before lights out).
The last few nights I have gently encouraged her to try, and she is still
falling asleep on the breast, but if there's really no milk this is a bit
pointless. (she has said this - I commented that she seemed to enjoy it even
if there isn't any milk, but she shook her head). Yet she still does do it.
Last night she wanted to cuddle my breast, she's never done that before.
She's also started to ask me for a back scratch after we finish the
books.....so it's as if she is asking for me to replace the breastfeeding
with other comforts.
In the daytime she seems fine, well, the same as always......she is quite a
firey little girl, but actually a lot calmer lately as other things in life
have settled down.
I think she will "cope" if we stop breastfeeding now, but I also think it
would be hugely beneficial for her if we were able to continue. It seems to
me that she has resigned herself to stopping purely because there is no
milk, not because she *wants* to stop. I'm certain that if I had abundant
milk she would be nursing frequently. On odd occasions over the past few
months she has cried out, "oooh, I got some milk!!" and been really excited
and happy. Her latch, I should say, has been poor for a long time, so this
is probably why my supply has dwindled.
I suppose it seems as though she isn't choosing to wean, it's happening to
her. To me it feels as though the dream of letting her self wean has been
snatched away from us. But I want to do what's best for her now. If I can't
get my milk back then I need to help her transition happily, but if I can
get it back then I do think that would be the ideal. I don't want to put her
through a long period of false hope though, on some small chance that things
Any thoughts? Any guaranteed ways to re-start a milk supply?
Oh, I should say, she is actually 3, but has her 4th birthday in just a few