Re: called a "nut"
Well, DH and I had always planned to wean DD when she turned 1, but then her birthday came last December and she was barely eating solids at all (and some days not at all) and wouldn't drink cow's milk and I had no doubt that she wasn't ready to wean yet (it had been on my mind as she was approaching 1 that I didn't want to quit BF'ing just then anyway). I had a conversation with DH about weaning and his response was, "Oh, no! You can't! Not yet, she's not ready yet to wean!" But I know if I had discussed this with him when DD was under 6 months old, he would have been shocked that someday he would be perfectly fine with me BF'ing a 23 month old.
I'm sorry what your DH said to you was hurtful. There is the possibility he might change his mind as your LO gets older and he sees how attached your LO is to BF'ing (at least in my DD's case, she is a booby fanatic). I am lucky though in that MIL BF DH and I am sure would have coslept with him too if FIL weren't such a restless sleeper. In fact, I think my MIL is a bit envious of us that we cosleep with DD and she never got to with her kids. (But my mom on the other hand is convinced cosleeping and extended BF'ing is horrible.)
DH has done a complete turnaround with parenting decisions he made before DD was born. (Me too, in fact, I swore up & down we'd never cosleep and here we are still cosleeping.) He was against cosleeping until he saw how much rest it allowed us all to get & how much happier I was as a result. When we talk about transitioning DD to her own room, he now is of the opinion DD will let us know when she's ready to sleep on her own. He had said he believed we should spank if necessary but has since changed his tune (I was spanked & swore I never would do that to my child), and I know now DH would never spank DD (in fact, he is by far the more lax parent while I try to enforce boundaries and guidelines). He wasn't against CIO until he realized just how horrible it was to hear your child cry and not be able soothe her--if I were gone and she wanted me, for example (in fact, DD's crying seems to bother him more than me, even when she is obviously just having a temper tantrum because she's not getting her way with something). We've had to adjust to parenting concepts over time and as we realized we had a very high needs baby who wasn't going to be easily soothed by conventional methods or would happily sleep in a crib. Hopefully, your DH will come on board as time passes.
Last edited by @llli*clb.1812; November 22nd, 2009 at 08:59 PM.
Mommy to Tessa Noelle 12/14/07