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    Alene,
    I am so happy it has saved your daughter. Your story is especially inspirational. However IME even LLL breaks out the toddler meetings. Specifically SO that the new mothers don't get freaked out? Is that a mistake in my thinking? I know we have a separate toddler group from the baby group. Do you think it's for another reason? I always just assumed that it was not to scare off new mothers.

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    I csn understand what you are saying about not wanting to scare people off early on. Its unfortunate that is where our society is at. I feel like I should continue normally with NIP because the more people come out of the closet about extended nursing, the more normal it will be. Because I think there are a lot of mamas out there that think something is wrong with their toddler for wanting to still nurse.

    I say this as though we will be nursing a long time. I really don't know what the future holds, but we are nowhere near even slowing down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*djs.mom View Post
    Alene,
    I am so happy it has saved your daughter. Your story is especially inspirational. However IME even LLL breaks out the toddler meetings. Specifically SO that the new mothers don't get freaked out? Is that a mistake in my thinking? I know we have a separate toddler group from the baby group. Do you think it's for another reason? I always just assumed that it was not to scare off new mothers.
    I had no idea LLL had toddler meetings, as the LLL meetings I go to have moms who nurse todlers right in the same group as those with newborns and everyting inbetween! I have gone to several meetings and they have all had mixed ages of the kids who BF.

    Our groups are quite open about extended BFing and I think that it has HELPED me decide that I will let DD self wean, and will embrace nursing well into toddlerhood I think that if I wasnt exposed to those who extend BFing past a year, that I may not have these feelings!
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    Default Re: Nursing an 8 year old...

    my group has mixed infants and toddlers. Not many toddlers though.

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    I'd say no -Shelly. I know the toddler meetings IME are held to accomodate the needs of the moms. If you have a room 1/2 full of newbie moms wanting to know if their baby is getting enough and a room 1/2 full of moms wanting more info on solids/weaning/night weaning etc... it can get tricky to answer everyone.

    For us it has nothing to do with not wanting to scare anyone off
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    I do think it is a sad state of affairs when we are made to feel we are doing something wrong nursing our toddlers. But I admit that I also tapered off my NIP once Nora was 13-14 mos old or so. I still did it, but not as much. I wasn't as comfortable doing it, I think mainly because I started noticing other people noticing me and wanted to avoid conflict. But I also I knew that she was perfectly capable of understanding that she needed to wait to nurse. Plus she was much more distracted and didn't seem to want to nurse when we were out and about. I did continue to nurse around around family and friends I started getting comments and questions, but I felt I could address them with family and friend and even be confrontational if necessary (which it was a few times) in a way I didn't feel comfortable being with strangers. That was just my own personal comfort level guiding my behavior and I remember thinking at the time that it was sad that I felt that way about it.
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    I didn't watch this video, but I suspect it's the same one that was on 20/20 about a year ago, with the mom in Great Britain and the two daughters. I saw it about a week after Lilah was born and thought it was super weird and it creeped me out.

    As time has gone on and I am approaching the year mark with Lilah, I have learned a lot of things about parenting in general. I don't think that I will be nursing Lilah when she is 8, but now I don't think it's creepy. When I am nursing my girl, I can't imagine why people wean at 6 months or a year. It is such an expression of love and nurturing between mother and child.

    There were a lot of things that I thought were crazy or creepy that people did with their children before I had one. Now I try not to judge what others do, because even though it may not be right for my family, it must be right for theirs. My husband likes to say that we were the best parents in the world before we had a baby.

    ETA: It makes me sad that people feel like they can't nurse their toddlers in front of others - but I am sure that I will start to feel that pressure as Lilah gets bigger. She's a pretty small baby so she will probably look like she's around 12 months old for quite some time. I don't remember noticing anyone NIP before I had her, but now I see people doing it everywhere I go - I think I just wasn't looking for it. That being said, I don't recall anyone nursing a toddler older than about 2 in public. I don't think that would have put me off breastfeeding - but my mom breastfed and my grandmother breastfed, and so I never had any intention of using formula for my babies. I'm not sure how it would have made me feel if I was on the fence about it.
    Last edited by @llli*mommy2lilah; October 13th, 2009 at 08:07 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*namaste View Post
    However, what i was offended by were comments about how "once they get teeth it needs to stop", or "if they can ask for it then they don't need it" .
    My daughter could ask for milk when she was 9 months old!! It's called SIGN LANGUAGE!!

    Funny considering the AAP recommends nursing for at least 3 months after that!!

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    I am nursing my 15.5 mo. old. She only nurses 2-4 times a day now but there are times when she asks to nurse or needs to nurse when we're out. (Not often, but sometimes it really is urgent). I don't feel comfortable nursing her in public for two reasons 1. we never mastered nursing while covered up and I would have to be completely exposed... 2. I don't want to deal with the comments. It would NOT make me feel uncomfortable to see someone else bf a toddler. I actually didn't think that the video of the 8 year old nursing was weird at all. But I personally don't think I'll be nursing my DD at 8. We'll be blessed to be nursing at 2. LOL. What makes me sad is that our society doesn't make it very easy to nurse past the infant stage. I can't tell you how many times I've nursed my DD in various bathrooms. When I pick her up from DC, I nurse in a large staff bathroom, b/c there's no space in any of the classrooms to nurse a toddler. I guess we just have to pray that we change society one bf baby at a time.

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    I don't cover up.

    I guess Roxie and I are going to forge ahead.. I really don't care if there are comments. It's just so normal for us and with our family...IDK, maybe I'll feel different at 2.
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