Hi -- I'm 20 weeks pregnant and nursing my 2 1/2 year old son. I've been hoping for child led weaning during this pregnancy, and in reading through some of the earlier threads, have many of the same issues that other mommies have.
Substitutions just don't work for my son. He has given up nursing except at nap time and at night time. Sometimes he can stir at night and I can sooth him back to sleep (we still cosleep) , but other times he needs to nurse. I'll let him nurse a few minutes and then ask him gently to "open open" and most times he will just let go and sleep.
I"ve tried the 'nummies are sleeping and we don't nurse until mr. sun comes up' to no avail. It just does not work for us.
My dh has always pressured me to 'just cut him off', but that goes against every fiber of my being and I need weaning to be gentle and peaceful with no resentment from my son.
I really don't mind tandem nursing, but my dh is rather disgusted by it. No attempt to talk to him about it will sway his thoughts. And it would be nice for me if dh could put my son to sleep at night when I'm busy with the baby this summer.
Anyway, I'm pulling out my copy of "How Weaning Happens" to see if I can find any insights I missed before.
I really thought once my milk was gone (and my son has said there is no more milk), that he would gradually just cut him self off.
I'm not in a hurry, but would like to take any additional gentle measures over the next two months to softly encourage sleeping without needed to nurse.
If any of you mothers have gone through a gentle, gradual weaning with a child that cannot be soothed by any other method sometimes, I would be grateful for your input.