Hi everyone. I'm new to these forums, and honestly I'm glad I've joined. I've been trying to do everything myself and have had no luck. Here's my story...
I was induced at 37 weeks, 5 days (on August 1st) with my daughter due to preeclampsia. It took all weekend for the contractions to actually put me into labor and our little angel was born 3 days later (August 3rd) at 7pm. The entire time I was on Magnesium Sulfate. Due to that nasty drug, our daughter would not wake up at all for basically the first week. We were not able to breastfeed and were instructed to give her a bottle to supplement until we were able to try. BAD IDEA as she got used to the bottle and then REFUSED to take the breast. We saw several Lactation Consultants who ended up just as frustrated as we were. DC would either sleep the whole appointment or would just scream because she wanted a bottle, not the breast. I decided to try a nipple shield and actually got her to latch with it, but she would take forever eating (she would be on the breast for over an hour at a time). she eventually got frustrated because she was not getting it fat enough as she was with the bottle (even though we were giving her slow flow nipples.)
I decided to just pump and give her a bottle. Well, my milk supply took forever to come in (again mag sulfate is a nasty drug) and the pump I had was very poor. I was not able to purchase or rent a better pump at the time. My milk supply dwindled and we gave her formula. I got discouraged and even felt like I was failing my daughter. My whole pregnancy, the thing I looked forward to the most was breastfeeding. I was bitter that I felt like this was taken away from me.
Here I am, 6 weeks later, and I WANT to do this. My supply was basically nil, and I've been taking fenugreek and mother's milk tea non stop. I smell like syrup, I'm peering constantly because I'm drinking so much water trying to stay hydrated, and my supply is VERY slowly starting to come back. I've rented a hospital grade pump too. I'm hoping to get a good supply that would be the equivalent of her drinking from the bottle. I've also been doing lots of skin to skin, warm compresses, and massage. Does anyone have any suggestions of anything else I can try? I'm going to buy some oatmeal today in hopes that will help out as well.
My next issue is this: She does not like the breast. I REALLY want to breastfeed but she just gets so frustrated. I've tried the baby-led latch, and she wiggles her way to the nipple, latches for a second, then gets upset like I tricked her or something. Is there ANYTHING I can do to overcome this barrier? I honestly do not feel like a true mother because I can't breastfeed. I know that's harsh, but that's the easiest way I feel right now.
I'm sorry this is so long, but if anyone has ANYTHING at all, please share. Encouragement, advice, suggestions. I need it all at this point. TIA!