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  1. #1
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    Unhappy After problems I want to restart BF..help

    Hello my name is Andrea....
    I did not have a good start with breastfeeding my baby, when he was born he did not latch on at all for the whole time I was in the hospital. I had to pump and give to him. Then a couple of days of pumping at home did not produce enough to feed him so we started him on formula while I kept pumping less than 1 once and he was still having trouble latching on but the few times he did, he ended up giving me and infection on my left breast which made it very painfull and I had to start antibiotics. To top it all off he stopped wanting to breastfeed all together. So with all these problems I stopped trying. Now he is 6 weeks and I want to see if I can start to breastfeed again?? I will tell you the truth.... some people have made me feel guilty for not trying harder and calling a lactation specialist. I want to make it right......... I tried pumping tonight and I got 1/2 an once and tried to give it to him and he flat out refused,who can blame him he loves his formula!! can anyone talk to me and help with getting restarted??

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    Default Re: After problems I want to restart BF..help

    Hi Andrea,
    I had serious problems when my DS was born too. Here's my story, I hope it helps you:
    DS and I had different blood types, and I made a lot of antibodies against his blood so when he was born my antibodies started destroying his RBCs. This made him a little anemic, very lethargic, and extremely jaundiced. The best way to counteract this process is to get the wasted RBCs out and energy in - by eating and pooping. My milk didn't come in until day 5 and he was so lethargic and sleepy he would only suck 2-3 times and then pass out. Stripping him naked and rubbing cold cloths on him couldn't wake him up, poor thing. So on day 3 the nurses urged me to give him a bottle and I felt so bad for how yucky he felt that I gave in. So he learned on day 3 that a bottle with instant gratification was so much easier than all that hard work for nothing (at least 'till day 5!) and from that day on he refused my breast. He would arch and scream and scratch and carry on for 45min-1hr each time I would try to nurse him. It was heartbreaking but I was determined!! So I pumped - you have to use the hospital grade if you're serious about increasing your supply - and I refused to feed him the bottles; if he wouldn't take the breast then DH would feed him a bottle, but never me. We went religiously to LLL meetings (the closest was 30min away) and those angels stayed late and came early to see how Samuel and I were doing and what new advice they could give. It took us 10 weeks and then one day, like it was really that easy, he just latched on and drank deep with no complaints. I still won't feed him a bottle! It's so hard when they learn the bottle is easier and they know the taste of formula; but you CAN do it if you are ready for some hard work. You have to persevere girl, and overcome feelings of frustration by KNOWING deep in your heart that it will pay off and you are doing the very best thing on earth for your baby. Truly believe that, and you will make it. I believe in you!!
    Still being able to pump that much after 6 weeks is great. Get a hospital grade pump (if you don't have one already) and get thee to some LLL meetings where you can get face-to-face help! You can also visit the relactation forum for other advice! Sorry this is so long, it's just very close to my heart when mamas have such a hard time bfing. I know you can do it, and we are all here pulling for you. Best of luck, let us know if you need anything else!

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    Default Re: After problems I want to restart BF..help

    Hi Andrea,
    It's never too late to try again. Pumping is a great way to get started, making sure that you do it for 15 minutes on both sides every 3 hours until you get your little one directly on the breast. To do that, I would spend a lot of time in bed with skin to skin contact (kangaroo care) take baths together and really just let your baby get used to your body. Don't try to force him to take the nipple (I know how frustrating it can be - I went through it, it took me 2 months to get my preemie to accept my breast) this will only give him a negative aversion to nursing. Since you are already giving formula I would start to add the breast milk to the bottle - only if you are unable to pump enough for one feeding - to get him used to the taste difference, and really even a little breast milk is better than none. Also, if possible, I would avoid being the one to give the bottle, letting your DH/SO or anyone else willing to help do it. You may also consider trying to nurse when your baby is sleepy or has had a bit of expressed breast milk, so that he is not starving and frustrated. Also, check out the Relactation Section in this forum. There may be some great advice for you there and definitely call a LLL Leader to help. The most important thing that I can stress is that you are doing a great thing wanting to nurse your baby. Stay calm, be patient and it WILL happen for you. Congratulations!

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    Default Re: After problems I want to restart BF..help

    don't let anyone make you feel guilty about anything! Yes, you wanna BF, yes you have had to feed formula sometimes. Your have made the best decision given the circumstances at THAT moment.

    FOllow the breast feeding advice above and your best insctint... but whatever the outcome, don't let anyone make you feel guilty. You loce your baby so much, you have not done ANYTHING wrong!

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    Default Re: After problems I want to restart BF..help

    Please join us over in the relactation and induced lactation forum. We'd love to have you!!

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