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    Default Mean boss--need to vent

    Hi everyone,

    First post here. I just started back to work last Monday. My DS was 8 weeks old. He'll be 10 weeks tomorrow. I've worked at my current position for 8 years. My boss-a female doctor-has a reputation for being somewhat...let's just say she's hard to work for!

    I thought things were going to be ok with me pumping at work. She had a fridge all ready for me, and showed me a couple of rooms that would be available. She then explained that the time to pump would be unpaid, except for my lunch break. I asked if I could come in early or stay late. Nope. OK, fine, I'll punch out. (I planned to do a 10 min session in morning, longer one at lunch, then another 10 min in the afternoon.) But the more I thought about it, the more it annoyed me.

    My coworkers take a coffee break, and they don't have to punch out. Why can't I pump then? The coffee break policy isn't written down in the employee handbook--it's a 'courtesy' break according to HR. I asked if I could have a 'courtesy' pumping break. The next day we get a memo--no more coffee/personal breaks allowed. Now everyone has to punch in and out for any breaks.

    My coworkers have been taking these 20-25 breaks forEVER! (Supposed to be 10 minutes). Rather than just enforce the 10 minute break rule, she makes me be the bad guy. Now my coworkers are mad, because I screwed up their "free" coffee time and I'm losing out almost $3000 a year to breastfeed my son due to lost wages. I hope the stress doesn't cause my supply to dwindle. He's a hungry boy! Already up to 14 lbs, 7 oz at 9 weeks!

    Anyone else have issues with supervisors or unsupportive coworkers???

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    Default Re: Mean boss--need to vent

    Wow, what a *itch!

    You might want to look into your provincial or state laws regarding hours worked and breaks / lunches. They may not be able to take away your breaks.

    Something to consider would be to shorten your 1 hour lunch to 40 minutes so that you still had 20 minutes to take breaks with. That way you're still working full hours and getting your pumping time.
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    What state do you live in mama?
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    Default Re: Mean boss--need to vent

    That really stinks.

    Again, what state are you in?


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    Well I am not sure if you are coming back tonight, but most states have laws protecting breastfeeding and pumping. Some states even require that you are provided 15 minute PAID breaks IN ADDITION to your normal work breaks to pump milk.

    You can check out breastfeeding laws as they apply to your state here and here.

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    Default Re: Mean boss--need to vent

    Thanks for letting me vent. To answer your questions, I live in CT. I only have a 1/2 hour lunch, and it is specifically mentioned in our handbook that lunch is taken between 12 and 1. So I couldn't even break it up because I know already she won't make special allowances for me-'then she'd have to do it for everybody'. Blah blah blah. It is a small company, less than 50 employees, so she doesn't have to go by the FMLA laws either.

    And don't even get me started on her "maternity leave"--our last office manager took 2 weeks. I was lucky to talk my way into 8 weeks. (After C-section due to breech, and dairy allergy that we're working through). Ugh.

    Plus side to this job: no weekends, no holidays, day shift and pay is decent. But I'm really starting to reconsider that all...

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    FWIW, I pumped for ds1 for a year while at work with 2 10 minute breaks and a 30 minute lunch.
    Not an ideal situation but it can be done. I made up my mind early on that no matter how difficult my employers made things they were not going to take away my breastfeeding relationship with my son.

    Some things that I did was to have my pump all set up and ready to go for the first session. I had a medela pump so I used their storage bags and would attach those to my cleaned pump the night before. I would also have the tubing and everything attached so all I had to do was plug it in and attach myself to start pumping. Then at lunch when I had a bit more time I would do the same thing so that I had everything ready for the afternoon pumping session.

    I also drank a lot of smoothies for breaks and lunches. I kept those in my cooler bag that came with my pump. It kept me from having to go running around trying to get something to eat and pump.

    Sorry that your boss has made you out to be the bad guy.
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    First off, !

    Okay so I went ahead and googled the state laws and I found this:

    Conn. Gen. Stat. § 31-40w (2001) requires employers to provide a reasonable amount of time each day to an employee who needs to express breast milk for her infant child and to provide accommodations where an employee can express her milk in private. (HF 5656)

    It's not FMLA, it is STATE LAW in CT. So by telling you that you can not do that, she is directly breaking the law.

    I also found this:

    http://www.ctemploymentlawblog.com/2...n-connecticut/

    She CAN NOT legally take away your right to pump. Print it out if you have to, take it to her office and inform her that you need at least 2 10 minute breaks in addition to your lunch, as well as a reasonable place to do so. I would give her the information and ask her to inform you of where and what times those breaks will be. Don't go into it being a bi*** or anything about it, and I wouldn't bring up anything that might imply you would sue her, but be firm and professional and let her know that you are well-informed of your rights and that she can not force you to give up your nursing relationship.

    Also, in case she tries to tell you that a half hour on lunch is "reasonable" you could also go to your Dr and/or pediatrician ahead of time and ask them for a letter informing her that it's not and those 2 breaks in addition to your lunch are necessary for maintaining your supply. Then she can't really argue with you on that either.
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    Default Re: Mean boss--need to vent

    I'm sorry you're in this situation. Something other people have managed to do (I've never tried it) is pumping in their cars on their way into work and on their way home. I'm not sure how far you drive to work, but maybe that would be a way to get some extra ounces out if you have a hard time with two 10 minute breaks in the morning and afternoon.
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