...it caused great strain on your marriage?
I'm posting this at my DH's request, because he wants to see what like-minded moms would say about his concerns.
My DD is now 13 months old, and she still nurses a lot. Generally, she'll nurse once in the morning, at daycare drop-off (though sometimes she forgets), once in the afternoon at daycare pick-up, maybe once in the evening, and then right before bedtime. Then she'll nurse maybe 2-3 times during the night. That's a total of 6 or 7 times in a 24 hour period, though it can be more or less depending on teething or illness or fun toys to play with.
I WOH full-time, so my DD's in daycare. She eats solids there, and has a meal of solids at home in the evening. She has NEVER taken a bottle, though she'll take a sippy of EBM and soy milk at daycare, as well as a lot of water.
My DH believes that nursing past the age of one is detrimental to both myself and DD.
a) he doesn't believe that breastmilk has any nutritional value past the age of one ("it's just a drink").
b) he thinks that it makes it impossible for others to babysit DD since she likes the boob for comfort and she can't go to sleep without it.
c) he also feels that DD is very "clingy" and needy because I still nurse her
d) he feels that it greatly interferes with our sex life because I have a low drive
e) he says that the fact that I cosleep with DD so that DD can nurse at night makes me tired and depressed, which impacts our life in general, as well as my health
f) he says that I keep nursing DD to feel important
g) finally, he believes that I'll always have an excuse to keep nursing DD (i.e. teething, illness, comfort), much like he'll always have an excuse to keep smoking or drinking beer.
We're in counselling right now, and obviously there are many other issues at hand, but my DH put it this way: which is better, nursing DD until she decides to wean or having her father there in her life? I guess it's sort of a either/or situation for DH, and I think he feels so strongly about this that he think it'll destroy our marriage.
FTR, my parents have successfully babysat DD many times, and have both managed to put her to sleep without the boob (or sippy of EBM and soy milk worked fine). Her DCP also put her down for naps with a backrub. And my DSS has also managed to put DD down for a nap with his own method.
I'll withhold my own views here in order not to color people's responses to my post.
So, what do you think mamas? What would you do?