My baby was born at 29 weeks 1240g, and he spent almost 3 months at the hospital. During that time I kept my milk supply and he was bottle fed (my milk) until 2-3 weeks before his due date. Then, I was allowed to breastfeed him at the hospital 4 meals during the day, while during the night he received bottle with my milk. I think that breastfeeding saved him as he stopped turning blue while being fed .. He ate between 30 and 80-90 grams, meals varying in size, but was quite happy on the breast.
After a month at home, he gained 760g, but our doctor said it was not enough and I should give him formula supplement and shorten the feeding. Our feeding could last for an hour not recommended 10min/breast. From day one I had a lot of milk, so quantity was not an issue (200g per pumping session), but he though that baby was not strong enough to nurse effectively enough. So, I started adding bottle with my milk, after nursing, and my baby was nursing less and less per each meal. Now, he has 3700g and nurses only 30-50g per meal, and he needs more than 100g/meal.
Recently he started fussing, crying even when I start lowering him to the breast...
Yesterday, I tried to breastfeed him without the bottle and he seemed inconsolable. He ate 40g every hour for 4 hours and then he fell asleep.... With breast+bottle he usually sleeps 2h, because the feedings last more than an hour with him falling asleep and crying...
With him screaming so much and eating less, nursing less, I am becoming desperate, especially that my milk supply is losing this battle as well !
I am afraid that I am torturing him with nursing and depriving him of food and sleep and yet he used to nurse 100g in 10min... Some say I should stick to the breast only and survive couple of days of crying... but I am afraid that it would hurt him. What if he does not have strength to nurse effectively? Why would that change when he was better at it when he was smaller?
Sorry if my post was too long... I am totally desperate for advice!!
Thanks in advance!!!