I've been reading through your posts trying to come up w/ a solution but i thought i'd post w/out hijacking someone else's thread!
My son is 22 months old and still nursing. I love nursing him, although he's so much more active in the daytime that the amount of times he nurses is down. It's partially b/c he's just busy and also b/c i am trying to gradually wean him b/c we're TTC and i don't think I can handle nursing him all night long and being pregnant (i had terrible morning sickness w/ him).
Usually he nurses like this:
-when he wakes up in the a.m.
-when he goes down for a nap (and he's been refusing his nap lately!
-when he wakes up from his nap
-when he goes to sleep at night
and then of course, all through the night.
So approx. 4x during the day between 8am and 9pm...something like that.
Sometimes if he's had a long day or is really tired or falls down and cries etc....i'll nurse him another time during the day, but his nursing pretty much has to do w/ napping/waking up and that is fine w/ me. I've been doing "don't offer / don't refuse" basically.....
I am fine w/ nursing him during the day - in fact, i love it.
We co-sleep and I am a WAHM - so i have my own business and have flexibility...but....
My issue is this: I would love to continue nursing him during the day....for a few months or whatever..i don't have a timetable really. I am not trying to eliminate it completely unless i have to...
But the night nursing is just killing me. I am so exhausted. And my days fly by, juggling doing activities w/ him and working.
I read Dr. Jay Gordon's method and it sounds....hard. During the day I'll think, ok, i am going to try this. But now that he's refusing his nap, he's up for basically 12 hrs...and come nighttime, i nurse him to sleep, and several hours later when i join him in bed, i am exhausted. I can't even think about rubbing his back and saying later/no etc. or anything.
He usually turns to me and says "more milk, more milk" or "mama, this side, no, this side" - he's so picky on the side he nurses on. I am torn. I love nursing him and love the connection and nursing him at night, but at the same time, i am just not getting any sleep and i'm tired and seem to wake up w/ a headache. All the time.
I have to add that he had a molar coming in last month and he went from nursing maybe 3x a night to now....nursing maybe 5-6 times a night.
Does anyone have any suggestions for night weaning? Do i just have to bite the bullet and do the Jay Gordon method? I know there is no easy solution...i am just tired and it's easier for me to roll over and nurse for a few minutes than not...but as a result, i am not getting any sleep!