Re: Short nursing time
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Since your baby is making good diapers (it's normal for pooping to slow down as the baby gets older and her digestive system matures) and gaining weight, there's no need to worry about her milk intake. Your new mantra should be "good output = good input".
Some babies become efficient nursers fairly early on, and 9 weeks is not too early for this to happen. However, it's possible that what is going on- the short feeds, the crying at the breast- are related to something like OALD. You mentioned that your baby nurses for longer during the night- are you nursing her lying down at during that time? If so, using a side-lying position may slow the flow of milk and make it more manageable, so if OALD is a problem for you, you could try side-lying feeds during the day and see how it goes.
Okay, so remember that new mantra? Use it on your husband. "Honey, good output = good input, put that darn bottle away."
My husband is quite worried that she is not getting enough to eat and is quick to suggest a bottle to ensure she is receiving enough milk. It kills me when we end up giving her a bottle b/c I'm worried she might prefer that over me. After the short nursing session tonight she continued to cry and after her offered a bottle she was content. When this situation occurs, it seems quite obvious that she was not really full after nursing for only 3 minutes as she quickly sucked down 3 ounces from the bottle.
It's totally normal for a baby to suck down a large amount of milk from a bottle even after a good nursing session. It's really easy to get milk from a bottle compared to the breast, which leads many babies to eat until they are absolutely stuffed to the gills. At the breast, the baby needs to suck for milk to come out. With the bottle, all she needs to do is lay there and the fluid will drip-drip-drip into her mouth, after which she needs to swallow or she's going to choke.
You sound really frustrated with the way things are going, but I don't think you should feel that way. It sounds like you are doing a great job! Hang in there and come back to the forum with any questions. This is a great place to get support.
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