Re: DH advice
As hard as it is, it sounds pretty normal for new parents. Becoming a parent is hard work; adjusting to working and being a parent is even harder.
Can you make time for him and the baby? When you sit down to nurse the baby, snuggle right up next to DH, so you can talk with him, pay attention to him, while still being able to attend to baby's needs.
If DH wants to hold him (he misses baby during the day, too!), then you can both hold him. You feed him, then hand him off to daddy for the burp. Or, make a pallet on the floor (in front of a movie on TV?), and all three of you lay down to enjoy the movie and play with the baby.
This adjustment takes creativity, love, and understanding on everyone's part. You will figure it out, in your own way. :-)
Can you attend a LLL meeting? I'm sure other mothers there have experienced a similar situation, and would be happy to share what worked for them.
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