Ok so I know ideally I should let DS set the pace and self wean but I am done. I CAN NOT continue to nurse him 7-10 times a day on top of the 9-12 times a day I nurse DD. It's driving me nuts. A lot of those times are tandem but it's just getting to be too much for me.
I basically do the DODR now but I think I need to refuse. We have gotten it to where if I say he needs to be done he'll stop but that doesn't work every time. Sometimes he'll want to cuddle and hang out there for an hour. Or DS and DD will play musical boobs and switch back and forth. If I make them stop and put the girls away, one or both of them will be asking to nurse again in 20 minutes.
Part of the problem is he'll want to do it when he sees DD doing it. Even if I go into another room (raise your hand if you think leaving a 2 year old alone leads to anything good) he'll come in and see what we're doing and want to join in. I don't have the heart to turn him away when he's basically been ignored for the last 20 minutes and wants to cuddle with mommy too.
If I tell him no or try to redirect or offer a snack or whatever he throws a tantrum. How do you deal with this? I'm not going to send him to time out since it's not his fault I've hit a wall and want him to stop.
I need some serious help here. It is getting to the point where I dream of weaning them both just to be done with it. I need to get him to stop in order to save my nursing relationship with DD. I know that sounds horrible, and I feel like a monster but I am starting to hate it.
I know that this is really ramble-y and maybe incoherent Please try to pick out the pertinent info and help us! I'd really be interested in having a leader chime in....