Re: Boobs starting to hurt
If you're hurting, I think it makes sense to pump. You don't want to end up with mastitis! Don't think of the pumping as increasing your production, think of it as decreasing your supply a little bit more slowly. Child-led weaning is often not immediate- your child skips a day and then asks to nurse, skips a few days more and then asks again... I have found it a very gentle way to wean, leading to no pain and no engorgement for me. If you can mimic that with a pump, I think it might be the same for you.
Definitely try the cabbage leaf thing, and have a cup or peppermint or sage tea. (Peppermint and sage are supposed to be useful for decreasing milk supply.)
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