Happy Mothers Breastfed Babies
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 15

Thread: how do know your LO is done?

  1. #1
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Posts
    8,272

    Default how do know your LO is done?

    DS is 32 mo and I *think* we're on the route to weaning.

    Nursing has been down to bedtime & naps, and recently he's become MUCH more interested in books than "mommy milk".

    I read stories about LO not nursing for days or weeks or months, then one day asking to nurse again.

    So ... how did you know that your LO was finally "done" with nursing?

    (Some context - a big part of me wanting to know is that I've been avoiding many foods for DS food allergies. If he is weaned, then I'd love to go out to dinner and have some of my favorite foods. If he's not weaned then I don't want to risk eating those foods.)

    Thanks!
    Lynn
    DS1: bf 7/2006 -> 4/2009; multiple food allergies
    DS2: bf 9/2009 -> ???
    ; multiple food allergies
    Breastmilk Donor - http://hmbana.org/index/donatemilk
    Click HERE to learn about baby led solids (BLS) / baby led weaning (BLW)

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Posts
    18,063

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?

    does he go to sleep at night with out nursing sometimes?
    My dd nursed just at bedtime for the longest time like over a year.


    good luck!

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    Posts
    2,538

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?

    oh wow, that's gotta be tough.... No advice but you have been through so much with all the allergies, all of you allergy moms are super stars in my book
    Autumn
    Moma to *Silas* 10-30-07

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Posts
    8,272

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?

    He hasn't nursed to sleep in probably over a year. We moved nursing earlier in the bedtime routine (nursing, then book, then daddy does final bedtime). But it HAS been part of the routine.
    Lynn
    DS1: bf 7/2006 -> 4/2009; multiple food allergies
    DS2: bf 9/2009 -> ???
    ; multiple food allergies
    Breastmilk Donor - http://hmbana.org/index/donatemilk
    Click HERE to learn about baby led solids (BLS) / baby led weaning (BLW)

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Feb 2007
    Posts
    1,578

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?

    When I offered her the boob and she started laughing at me.

    Loving my Beautiful High Needs Baby Girl born 12/28/06

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    3,320

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?

    Thomas pretty much told me he was done. He had gradually dropped feedings, and we were down to just nursing at bedtime. Around Thanksgiving he went a week without nursing at all (I would offer at night as usual, but he would say no or laugh). He nursed for about another month, at bedtime but for shorter periods, until he was just done. I continued offering for a while, but he let me know he was not interested. Now if I ask him (I don't offer anymore, but sometimes I'll ask if he remembers it, etc), he cracks up or gives me this "Yeah, right" stare.

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Location
    The N O ;)
    Posts
    224

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*babygirlsmom View Post
    When I offered her the boob and she started laughing at me.


    Awww!!

    E's doing morning & bedtime & nap sometimes..She's still in love with her boos though

    I love the time we share & her affection for them

    I also love that I can give her a substitute any other time she asks --except the ones mentioned

    No rush whatsoever, but whenever she's done it's ok by me..


    "Children reinvent your world for you." Susan Sarandon

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    2,005

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?

    Just because they ask to nurse after a long break from nursing, it doesn't mean that you have to accommodate the request.

    For both of my lo once we had mutually decided to wean they have come back after a month and asked to nurse. I offer an alternative and if the alternative is easily taken I know they are truly done nursing and were just asking out of habit.
    Proud mom of 2 boys, both weaned gradually and with love.


    Find a local LLL leader

    For each and every one of us, the person from whom we can learn the most is our own baby: listen to him. - Mary White, LLL co-founder

    The best-kept secret in child psychology is that children who were never spanked are among the best behaved."
    Murray Straus, Ph.D.

  9. #9
    Join Date
    May 2007
    Posts
    4,160

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?




    Sounds like you're on the way Lynn. I know for us DS is shortening the times we nurse at night and for naps. It just seems like the natural progression.
    Lisa

    Mommy to
    Logan 5-23-07
    Colby 12-14-09

  10. #10
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Posts
    8,272

    Default Re: how do know your LO is done?

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*mom2a View Post
    they have come back after a month and asked to nurse
    See ... that's my dilemma.

    I'm trying to figure out how long I wait after what I *think* is the last time DS nurses before I can eat foods that he is allergic to.

    What if DS comes back after a month and asks to nurse and does NOT accept "no" or alternatives, and meanwhile I've eaten things that he's allergic to. I've either got a VERY upset LO ... or I'm putting him at risk because of allergens in my breastmilk. Neither option very attractive.

    Sigh.
    Lynn
    DS1: bf 7/2006 -> 4/2009; multiple food allergies
    DS2: bf 9/2009 -> ???
    ; multiple food allergies
    Breastmilk Donor - http://hmbana.org/index/donatemilk
    Click HERE to learn about baby led solids (BLS) / baby led weaning (BLW)

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •