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    Default How she "asks" to nurse

    DD (almost 14 months) asks to nurse by jamming her hand down my shirt and grabbing one of my nipples.

    At first I just and thought it was kind of funny, but now it's embarassing and painful - she is nursing non-stop lately and my nipples are sore! It's been going on for well over a month, maybe two.

    How do I get her to ask in a different way?
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    Default Re: How she "asks" to nurse

    I can understand wanting to make a change.

    Can you teach her the "sign" for milk? or can you explain that her current method hurts mommy and suggest she tug on your shirt instead of your nipple? I know your DD is just over a year, so I'm not sure if that would work, but I'm guessing that she should be able to understand some sort of alternative.

    My DD buries her face in my chest and rubs it back and forth.. Not the same as what you are describing, but again, in certain settings...

    I'm sure other Mamas have BTDT and will know how to handle this.
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    Default Re: How she "asks" to nurse

    kellymom tips on nursing manners

    IMO / IME it's perfectly okay to set limits on nursing behaviors that you find painful / embarrassing.

    Breastfeeding is a mutual relationship, and at 14 mo she can learn that its NOT okay to do things that hurt you.

    I got tired of DS grunting and tugging on my shirt when he wanted to nurse so taught him the sign for milk (opening / closing fist) and he got it in a couple days.
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    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*lsksam View Post
    I got tired of DS grunting and tugging on my shirt when he wanted to nurse so taught him the sign for milk (opening / closing fist) and he got it in a couple days.
    That's so funny - I didn't know what the sign for milk was, but DS shows that he wants to nurse by doing that with both hands! I wonder if the sign was developed from what babies do naturally?
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    Since she is probably starting to talk, in addition to the sign, you could also teach your DD a word for nursing. My LO calls nursing "moo moo's" and it is just the cutest thing in the world when she looks at me and asks, "moo moo's??" Then I'll say, "Do you need moo moo's?" And she starts excitedly nodding her head up and down and giggling too...

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    Default Re: How she "asks" to nurse

    Quote Originally Posted by @llli*buff24 View Post
    Since she is probably starting to talk, in addition to the sign, you could also teach your DD a word for nursing. My LO calls nursing "moo moo's" and it is just the cutest thing in the world when she looks at me and asks, "moo moo's??" Then I'll say, "Do you need moo moo's?" And she starts excitedly nodding her head up and down and giggling too...

    Buff
    This is what we do too, He still (as you've noticed) sticks his hand down my shirt or attempts to lift it up, but I usually remove him, set him down and say "Do you want to nurse?" Then he nods frantically and laughs, yes...sometimes even nods and says "Peas!"
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    Default Re: How she "asks" to nurse

    We had the same thing going on and I would put him down and ask if he wanted to nurse. He would get excited or show me in some way that he did and then I would sit down and we would nurse. Later he would ask to Nursh and now he will actually ask in a full sentance- Mommy, I want to nurse please.

    It's an ever evolving relationship on both sides and you can lay the groundwork for the direction you want it to go.
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    Default Re: How she "asks" to nurse

    I agree with the others about teaching her the sign for "milk" if you haven't already. Katy started signing it when she was about 8 months. She frantically signs with both hands whenever she wants to nurse now!
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    Default Re: How she "asks" to nurse

    Thanks for the suggestions, ladies. I'm going to try putting her down when she sticks her hand down my shirt (and prepare for the screaming tantrum ), ask her if she wants to nurse AND try the sign. It can't hurt, right? The only thing about the sign to nurse is that it's also how she waves... so I'll just have to look for context.
    Karen

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    Default Re: How she "asks" to nurse

    DS is doing the EXACT same thing!

    i have been gently pulling his hand away and asking "do you want milkies?" we have been working on using the sign for nurse more often... he knows it, but isn't always consistent in doing so.

    our main focus right now is when he is nursing on one side and grabbing the nipple of the other. he can be distracted with other things during the day, but at night it's all out the window. DH thinks it's because it's dark and DS can't see it to make sure they are both "still there"!
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